There are different ways to tell when a person is hiding something from us and even when he is not telling us the truth. When we tell the truth we do not have to make too much effort to remember and express what happened, however when we are going to say a lie, our brain has to make an extra effort to disguise it from the other person and to create that fictitious story that we are going to communicate.
In this Psychology-Online article, we are going to let you know how to know if a person is lying because of their gestures, as well as we will offer you information about the attitudes that a liar person normally has.
They say that The eyes are the window of the soul and it is that when it comes to identifying whether a friend is fake And whether he is lying or not, the expression and the movement of his eyes can tell us a lot about it.
For example, when a person prefers not to look into your eyes when he is telling you something that he is trying to avoid your gaze, lowers it and turns to look everywhere except you, this is a great indicator that that person is actually lying to you. On the other hand, it has been found, and this is something that is used a lot in neurolinguistic programming, that people who look to the right side when they are telling you something it is because they are telling the truth, however when they look to the left side it can be a great indicator that they are lying.
But why does this happen? What happens is that the information we want to obtain is found in different areas of our brain, for example the area where that information is stored about the events that happened to us in the past is different from the area where we consciously want to create new information, which in this case would be the lie. This is why we tend to look at different places when we are trying to communicate something. It may also be that a person who normally does not have any nervous tic, begins to make some with the eyes, whether the close and open them constantly or that their gaze is very different, which is better perceived if we know that woman well beforehand. person.
Despite the fact that a person tends to lie frequently, unless he is an expert on the subject and the art of performance, we can generally predict it in a relatively simple way if we have sufficient knowledge of how to do it.
However, despite this, we can never 100% affirm that that person is really lying since it is something more subjective and we must first analyze their entire context in general. Here are the most common attitudes of a liar:
- They tend to be slow in terms of their speech Since while they are making it they are also thinking what is the next thing they are going to say to you.
- They repeat the questions you ask them a lot to give themselves more time to elaborate the lie.
- They talk to many rodeosThey tend to be not very direct about what they want to communicate.
- They can be corrected often as they tell different stories to each person, so they often do not remember what they have said in the past.
- When they are asked something in particular, they do not give a specific answer, they try to confuse the person who is asking them the question to the end answer something other than what was asked or simply not answer and they try to leave through the tangent.
Currently there are several studies that have shown how we can detect if a person is lying solely through their gestures. It is clear that in most cases the non-verbal communication can express more than verbal and it is easier to analyze a person through this type of communication and not based solely on what he says.
- Changes in body posture. When they are telling you what they want to communicate to you and especially when they are realizing that you can fall for their lie, they abruptly change their body posture. For example, they may sit with their legs open and cross them quickly, start stroking their hair, close their arms, etc.
- Changes in tone of voice. Tone of voice is another extremely important factor when detecting a lie. When a person lies, the moment he begins to do it, his tone of voice changes considerably, It may be that he begins to speak with many pauses, that his voice breaks, that his tone of voice increases or decreases, etc.
- That his gestures do not match what he says. It may be that when the person is telling you the lie, in this case, her gestures do not coincide with what she is communicating to you. For example, a person who says they feel sad or upset about a situation but her facial and even body gestures show the opposite, that she is relaxed and calm.
- Blushing This happens a lot to people who are not used to lying and try to do it. So it may be that when the person comes to talk to you to tell you the lie (if it is), they begin to blush.
- Rigid posture. When someone lies they are generally not going to find themselves relaxed, so their obvious body stiffness can be a great indicator that they are lying to us.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
