What are emotionally distant people like?

There are people who seem to put you invisible barriers To get closer to them, it doesn't matter how many times you try that you don't succeed. You can have conversations that lead nowhere (or not even that because they may not feel like talking and won't answer you). It is also possible that you meet people with whom you can share many moments of your life but when it comes to going emotionally... that person suddenly closes in band and as if it had a shell it is impossible to reach it.

Does this sound like I'm telling you? If someone around you is coming to you right now, whom you want in the lead, it is very likely that you are dealing with a emotionally distant person, something that can negatively affect your relationship if you do not know what you are facing up. In this Psychology-Online article we are going to discover you how emotionally distant people are so that you learn to relate to them.

Index

1. What is an emotionally distant person
2. Because they are so?
3. How to talk to an emotionally distant person
4. Emotionally distant partner: what to do?

People who are emotionally distant they usually put a great distance between people and himself for what usually seem cold people who are not interested in anything around them more than themselves. These types of people in addition to putting up emotional barriers that are very difficult to overcome find it hard to bond only to avoid having to get emotionally close to anyone and thus not feel vulnerable.

It is possible that if you know someone with these characteristics you also notice that they lack empathy (or at least they seem to be), they will be very critical almost without compassion and also they like to isolate themselves and spend time alone. Wanting to spend time alone does not make you an introvert because in this case it is the person's choice to be distant, an introvert instead simply needs time to show how they really are without barriers emotional

People who are emotionally distant always they are because of something that has happened to them in the past, probably due to failed affective relationships in their most important bonds, either due to a bad relationship with their parents, siblings or people in their most intimate environment in their first years of life or in their childhood.

This will leave very important and painful marks on the soul, which will make this person close in band to not to be damaged again, looking like a cold person. For this reason they do not communicate their feelings and hide all their emotions to such an extent that it seems that they lack them. But it's not really like that, it just is a cuirass so they don't get hurt.

As we have seen, an emotionally distant person often has a barrier that prevents people from entering their emotions and, therefore, taking advantage of their vulnerability. These barriers are usually created almost unconsciously as a kind of defense mechanism that prevents them from hurting you, again.

Therefore, really speaking with a person with these characteristics can be complicated but not impossible. It is important that you earn their trust and that, above all, you show yourself as an understanding person with good intentions.

Here we will give you some tips that will allow you to approach these people and establish healthy and true relationships:

• Start in your comfort zoneIf you want to talk openly with an emotionally distant person, it is important that you start quietly. Don't go straight to the point but start by talking about topics that you know he feels comfortable and confident with. As the conversation flows, then you can start to get into the real topic you want to talk about, not before.
• Practice empathy: the best tool you have at your fingertips for that person to trust you and open up completely is empathy. Putting yourself in their shoes, trying to speak from your point of view and without claims will help you create that authentic and sincere connection between you.
• Don't push: a person who is distant and who has barriers does not want to be pressured, therefore, he respects his time and his own limits. You do not want to scratch or provoke him to be what you want him to be. That's the way it is, respect it and try, from your reality, to improve your relationship step by step.

In the event that the emotionally distant person is your partner, then it is important that you take into account a series of tips that will help you improve your relationship and create a stronger bond. To do this, in Psychology-Online we will give you these tips:

• Try to understand him: It is important that you do not impose yourself on your partner, that you understand her and that you respect her. You do not want to change him, simply try to communicate with him or her to ensure that your relationship is healthier and stronger. But never, ever, judge or pressure him. Little by little, you will see that he will open up to you and that he will express himself more easily. But give it time.
• Speak yourself and communicate your feelings: To have a good relationship with an emotionally distant partner, it is recommended that you lead by example. That is, instead of waiting for him to speak to you, do it yourself and express yourself openly. Creating this type of relationship and conversation between you will help, little by little, your partner also count on you when they have a bad day or when there is something that worries them.
• Step by Step: As we have already said, you cannot force a person with these barriers because the only thing you will achieve is to harass and overwhelm them. You have to go little by little and rejoice for each advance and each better that you manage to make in your relationship. Anything goes!

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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