Surely on many occasions you have not dared to carry out any activity for fear of what they will say if you do it wrong or if you make a fool of yourself. It is a feeling of loss of dignity, and of fear of being humiliated. The origin of the feeling of shame is in our survival instinct.
In the past, and in a way also today, we needed to belong to a group in order to survive, so the taking a ridiculous action could mean that we were expelled from that group and, therefore, our ability to survive would be minimal. Thus, the feeling of shame is a residue of that primal instinct to survive. At present, on many occasions it has lost its function and is nothing more than an obstacle in our day to day life. Therefore, it is important to know how to deal with it.
In this Psychology-Online article, we tell you how to lose shame, the characteristics of shame and the types of shame that exist.
Shame is an emotion or feeling of discomfort caused by the fear that our action will cause rejection in others. In other words, it is also a disturbance of the emotional state due to a committed action that is socially considered humiliating. It is an emotion that limits us because of the fear of being rejected. For this reason, shameful people tend to avoid certain situations or contexts for fear of making a fool of themselves.
Do you want to know how to lose your shame? Read on to learn about the characteristics of shame and how to overcome this feeling.
Perhaps you have often wondered why we feel ashamed. The main causes of this feeling are feeling of vulnerability that we feel in front of others, due to social prejudices, and the fear of being excluded for making a fool of ourselves if we don't follow the standards most valued by society. The fear of being rejected makes us adapt to pre-established norms and judge those behaviors or actions that deviate from them.
If you want to know more about shame, in the following article you will find information on why am I ashamed of everything.
There are several characteristics that can help you identify your feeling of shame. Next, we will see what are the characteristics of shame:
- Many times is unconscious so we don't know we have it.
- It is very durableThat is, despite having ended the situation that could cause us shame, this feeling lasts over time.
- The emotions and feelings that arise as a result of it, such as low self-esteem, sadness, anxiety, are very intense.
- This accompanied by thoughts, images, negative sentences originated in childhood. Examples of this is thinking that oneself is stupid, useless, the feeling of not being enough, among others.
- The most primary origin, as we said at the beginning of the article, sIt is due to our primal survival instincts. However, there are factors that occur during childhood that can cause some people to have greater feelings of shame than others. On many occasions, a child's parents send negative messages every time she makes a mistake, causing her to These messages end up being internalized and making that child feel increasingly insecure about starting a action.
Read on to learn how to lose embarrassment with very simple exercises.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
