Sadness and loneliness hurt, they make us feel vulnerable. However, in such a situation, try to rationalize this discomfort to understand that it is not a definitive period. You can do something to change your own inner perception because your attitude changes your world. Don't let sadness and loneliness lead you to a point of self-pity and victimhood when today you can decide to have a nice day. Big changes start with the simplest steps. In Psychology-Online we give you ideas to achieve it. Ideas of hope, motivation and encouragement in the face of emotional pain. ¿What to do when you are sad and lonely? In this article we give you the answer.
Instead of staying home going round and round with sad-themed thoughts, make a plan with yourself.
Film session
It is one of the best therapies against loneliness because once you have bought your ticket and are sitting in the room, you experience the encounter the lives of the characters, discover an interesting plot and gain life lessons from the inspiring example of their protagonists. Obviously, not all movies are of the same quality. However, you can document yourself by reading reviews and reviews about the offers available on the billboard. More cinema; this is a good formula to reduce emotional loneliness.
If you are not comfortable with the idea of going to the cinema alone, then choose the afternoon session on a weekday as the best option to enjoy your cinematic moment. You will feel in your comfort zone.
Reading in the library
Choose a good book and change the walls of your house for those of the library to feel accompanied by that latent silence in this cultural space that is also a place for socializing. Books are good medicine against loneliness and sadness. Do not continue reading a book that bores you in its first pages, otherwise, you turn reading into suffering.
Around the literary universe you can also experience the company of being part of a Reading Club in which to share the reflections around the work read by the group.
Walks
The walks are medicinal for the mood and are a good way to act when you are emotionally unwell. You can also combine them with other plans. For example, you can have a drink in a coffee shop while reading your favorite magazine. You can take advantage of the journey to run some of the daily errands. You can also take some landscape photos.
Call a friend
When you feel like this, you can make the mistake of waiting for someone else to guess how you feel. However, it is very possible that the people who love you have not realized your discomfort. Call a friend on the phone, tell him how you feel, thank him for his support and tell him that you would like to meet and talk for a while.
If that friend is miles away, then you can make a conversation by videoconference. Sometimes, when you feel sad and lonely, you need to talk about it to relativize it and realize that, from empathy, understanding arises when you use the language of feelings.
Music concerts
Stop boycotting your personal agenda by always depending on someone else's company to make plans you like. For example, if today you have time available to go to a classical music concert but no one in your environment has free time at that time, then, consider the possibility of attend unaccompanied. The feeling of loneliness descends when you learn to put your own autonomy into practice in practical experience.
There are different causes that can motivate the feeling of loneliness. Here are seven possible reasons:
- Expectations not met. When you anticipate how you would like others to behave, then you get frustrated that each person is different. And, from this position, loneliness is the result of the void left by expectations that have not materialized in reality.
- You have closed yourself in. Loneliness can not only be motivated by an external circumstance, but also, be the result of the attitude of that person who has put on a breastplate to protect himself from new disappointments. And, therefore, it has closed in on itself.
- Idealization of the lives of others. You look at other people's Instagram photos and feel like they have a dream life compared to your own leisure options. Do not let yourself be overshadowed by this type of mirage because life does not admit comparisons when it is measured from its essential truth.
- You find yourself away from your family and friends after having moved to a new city for work reasons and you are still in the process of adapting to the new environment in which you hope to form your own social circle. In this case, be patient because everything takes time.
- Death of a loved one. The ultimate distance from a special person can make you long for her presence.
- Mobile phone addiction and social media. Not by being permanently connected will you feel more accompanied. In reality, this dependence produces inner emptiness because technology is a means, not an end in itself. It is a complement to the face-to-face and personal meeting.
- Heartbreak Heartbreak can not only occur after a couple breakup, but also, in a bond that is apparently still alive although at its core it is totally broken.
In any of these situations, the advice described in this article can help you because they are simple ideas whose application depends mainly on yourself.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
