What does it mean to DREAM that YOU MARRY?

Getting married is the dream of many people, it is also the success and self-realization aspired by many, so much so that it can come to manifest freely and literally in the dreams of these people. But our aspirations are often based on as many experiences, whether in our childhood or in the life in which we are currently working; Thus the meaning of these dreams will not follow a straight line of connections, but many relevant but unconscious points of our psychic life will be involved.

In this Psychology-Online article we explain what does it mean to dream that you are getting married. The meaning of dreaming about your wedding can vary depending on many circumstances. It may not mean the same to dream that you marry your boyfriend or girlfriend, your husband or wife, your ex-partner or someone you don't know. Next we will see what this dream means based on its characteristics.

Index

1. Meaning of dreaming about a wedding
2. What does it mean to dream that you are going to get married but do not get married
3. What does it mean to dream that you marry your ex-partner
4. What does it mean to dream that you marry your partner
5. What does it mean to dream that you marry someone you do not love

These types of dreams "tend" to be the polar opposite of nightmares, since they produce a lot of pleasure, but this is not always the case. Some people refer with great anguish this type of dreams in which there is a wedding, whether or not they are the ones who are marrying causes them much anguish, and this is where we can start to interpret what it means to dream of a wedding.

The signifier of a wedding frequently implies commitments, and within them their consequent or underlying signifiers: responsibilities, restraints, families, resignations, legalities, formalities, changes and many others very particular.

Dreaming of a wedding can be involved in unconscious desire for getting married, but there are undoubtedly many more elements that are actively involved in the meaning of this dream (for example, there are some people who in the dream they have interrupted the ceremony or have run out of the room) and these elements can make the interpretation a little more confusing due to links simple.

The dreamer can describe the following: "I dreamed that I was at a wedding and suddenly it was interrupted because the groom He ran out and then it seemed that I was the one running - it seemed that I was the boyfriend - and then the dream ended. I think that he is not related to me because the relationship with my partner is in order and I have thought about asking him to marry him but this dream made me think a lot ".

There are thousands of variable elements that can arise in the dream and in the case of the previous example, it is It is difficult to say that the latent but unconscious desire of the subject is the wedding, but that the escape from this event. Maybe this is related to fear to its underlying signifiers (responsibilities, changes, attachments) that are also unconscious.

Dreaming that we are getting married, as mentioned above, can take two routes: from pleasure and from displeasure. Our ego gives the event the opposite (I don't like weddings, I don't ever plan to get married, I think the marriage is unnecessary, I hate weddings, I don't like weddings), but this is where we have the opportunity to question the reason for this disgust.

For example, why do you think marriage is unnecessary and banal? The subject can state that they are rudimentary events about the commitment to the couple because they always end in divorces and abandonments. Perhaps by doing a more extensive and in-depth exploration of this aspect, the person had difficulties with your ex by the same signifiers that operate in their life: they had a fairly formal and relatively stable until one of them talked about taking the next step and suggesting forming a family together.

There are so many signifiers that operate in our lives from a very young age, the fear of responsibilities perhaps arises as consequence of an experience in which the marriage was involved: your parents have divorced, the father or mother has told you on several occasions that there were many dreams or plans that you could no longer carry out due to having married, friends and colleagues refer that wives change radically after marriage and this although at first glance may make us think that only will provoke fear of marriage, but we do not take into account that perhaps the subject would like to establish a relationship and feel loved and accompanied but the ego part in this case is the protection and prevention of failure.

To have dreamed of an ex-partner It will not always mean that there are things pending to say or express with that person, or that there are still very deep and strong desires to be with that person and more if in the dream they marry her. Many times the unconscious begins to associate present events in the waking moments of the subject (for example, with the current partner they begin to have problems or too much closeness and formality) this is quickly represented as dream content of the previous experience with the ex partner.

As we mentioned from the beginning, the concept of "wedding" will have different meanings for each person who has dreamed of a wedding. For some it may only be paperwork, celebrations and legalities, for others it may be a representation of success and personal fulfillment.

Dreams manifest unconscious meanings: for example, thinking that they are pure formalities. And the conscious or our moral part expresses: it is a process that every human being must aspire to and therefore I very much wish to be able to marry my partner. Something in the way that the way in which the dreamed is expressed will often manifest the opposite of what is desired really in the unconscious (for example, a patient expresses that he dreamed of marrying his partner and that this generated a lot of anguish because weddings seem silly to him, but unconsciously he wants to form the family that he never felt he had and felt loved and accompanied).

Dreaming that one marries a partner, many times manifests those unconscious experiences with which the signifiers have been formed.

Next, we share a example that you can take into account when interpreting these dreams:

• Juan's parents were married for 15 years. When Juan was 5 years old, they decided to divorce. Juan's aunts are also divorced and some of them often expressed disagreement with their husbands. Juan became 30 years old and met Martha, with whom they have a relatively stable relationship (There are no discussions, they try to reach agreements, they accompany and rely on the plans that each one). Despite Juan expresses having dreamed that he married his partner, he states during a conversation with his psychologist that marriage does not attract him much and that he considers it as something unnecessary because they regularly end badly and he loves Martha too much for things to end that way. shape. In addition, in the dream Juan refers that he interrupted the ceremony, thus he says that it cannot be a latent desire for commitment, but quite the opposite. The explanation overshadows what underlies the dream: a need for affection, stability, security and support.

The unconscious contents of the latent desire for commitment and renouncing it conceal the true need: to hide the fear that their need for affection and stability will manifest itself.

As we have said, the meaning of this type of dreams is compromised by the elements involved in them, so we invite you to explore even more and with great attention to each and thus be able to associate them.

How do we know when we don't want someone? This is a key question when interpreting dreams with this characteristic, as it will allow us to recognize what we have been describing in previous paragraphs in which it dreamed and its associated emotional experience many times will be representing the desires that are really acting (operating) from our unconscious in an underlying way.

In this particular case, dreaming of marrying someone you don't love could be representing your latent desire to establish a relationship with that person even if you verbally state that this is not the case, and even though even in your dreams you were almost forced to get married.

Loving someone is associated with those needs that we don't know we haveFor example, a need to be heard, to be accompanied, or even a need to protect and care for someone. When we lose someone we know who we lose, but we don't know what we lose with that person; Likewise, when we say we love someone, we do not know what we want from that person, we say it is because of his stability, because he listens to us, his security and self-confidence and perhaps because of his personality. We ignore that behind or below all these conscious reasons that we describe as a list, they are constituted by unconscious needs; If we say that our partner likes us because he listens to us - What will happen if in a moment he does not? - or if it is because of your personality and security - What will happen when you have a failure and feel insecure and unstable? We want many things from these people that we ignore wanting: if we like to be heard, there is something we need to express that others have not heard.

We describe all this of loving and not loving someone because if we say that we dream of someone we do not love, we probably don't know why either. We can consciously say: because I don't like him, he doesn't attract me, I find him unpleasant, he's not my type at all, I would never have a relationship with that person. But maybe that person represents something that he has not passed at any time in our field of consciousness: sexually and physically attractive although in our field conscious let's say that he is an idiot and a jerk, or vice versa that he is very educated and intelligent but his physique does not attract me to nothing.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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• Sigmund Freud. (2013). The interpretation of dreams. Editorial Akal.