The thought determines the way you have to approach reality. That is, under the prism of subjectivity, you judge every day as positive or negative not only the world around you. but also, those people who are close to you, even those you don't know well enough to know how They are. Over the years, it is normal to add some disappointment to that backpack of interpersonal relationships that we all have.
The funny thing is precisely that beyond the pleasant surprises, many people are simply carried away by the bitter taste of disappointment. I mean, they only focus on that person who hurt them to the point that they become ill-thought out. That is, they distrust many more people.
The reality is that not even though you seem to feel safer and more protected. The truth is that the danger of being badly thought out is remarkable since it makes you see bad intentions where there are none and bad feelings where there are none.
Of course, I think that beyond this fact, it is positive that you also grant yourself the right to close doors to people who do not provide you with what you need or who have hurt you. But not for those who did not know how to rise to the occasion let your heart be poisoned with rage and indifference. It is even better that you be understanding and begin to understand that sometimes, simply, everything happens for something and even from those most painful situations you can extract a hopeful message to be well and live happy. For example, perhaps a heartbreak leads you to find your great love. Life is short and it is worth enjoying from the green color of hope.
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