Throughout life, we meet many different people, however, they could be counted on the fingers of one hand those that are there in the good and in the bad and that remain over time in a show of loyalty absolute. For this reason, before avoiding unnecessary disappointments, you must be clear about what the concept of friendship is for you. Another situation that sometimes occurs is that of feeling that a person with whom you had confidence suddenly makes you empty or leaves you behind. Do you feel like you have no friends to go out or real friends? Do you think you are losing your friends? Are you distancing yourself from your best friends? If your friends have failed you and you don't know what to do, read on. In this Psychology-Online article, we will see what to do when your friends leave you behind.
Why does a friend make you empty? When a friend leaves you behind, he is showing an instrumental behavior in friendship. There are several options in case of estrangement between friends. If your friends stay and they don't let you know, it may be for these reasons:
- Maybe your lives have changed and already you do not share values or hobbies.
- You may be in different life stages and do not have things in common.
- Perhaps met a new group and now take more interest in your new friends.
- It also often happens that when some people find a partner they leave out many of their friends and focus solely on love.
- Another option is that there be some conflict that has not been resolved and that is causing the estrangement between friends.
How to act when they make you void? When your friends leave you aside, stay and do not warn you or ignore you, it is normal that you feel a great discomfort and wonder what you can do about it. Let's see what to do when friends fail you:
- Look for the reason. As we mentioned in the previous section, you may be in different stages of life, that you no longer share hobbies or activities in common. Or there may be a pending dispute. The solution will be different depending on the reason for the distance between friends.
- Talk to him or them. Of course, it is worth trying to explain to that person how you feel and how you would like things to change. Always from the assertive communication. From there, it is up to you to do your part.
- Be patient. He who feels that a friend makes him emptiness experiences emotions of all kinds: rage, pain, sadness, anger, anger, loneliness... Sometimes the other person may realize that they miss you and come back to look for you. Therefore, you have to give time to time and have a little patience.
- Put your part. Friendship is a true gift, however, it must be nurtured in the same way by both parties, through communication, common plans, illusions and experiences.
- You accept. If all that doesn't work, it means that the friendship can't move on, as the other person isn't putting the part of it. You cannot change others, so you must accept.
- Thanks. Sometimes people take different directions and nothing happens. Stay with the good times lived next to that person, the good times shared with that group of friends.
- Change the environment. Your friends may empty you and ignore you and this makes you feel bad. In this case, the best thing you can do is change your scene, start new activities, in another environment and with other people.
- Boost your self-esteem. Self-esteem is built on the basis of experiences and interpretations. You may have felt rejected or rejected in this experience and that has affected your self-esteem.
- Meet new people. That a friend or some friends have failed you does not mean that you have run out of friends, or that you will not have more friends. It is a good opportunity to meet new people and establish new friendships.
- Make new friends. To make new friends, it is first necessary to be open to meeting new people. For friendship to emerge, be yourself and be receptive.
To make new friends, you need to connect with other people and be open minded. You can practice activities that you like and go to the plans to which you are invited. This way, you can meet other people. If you do activities that you like and you are open and receptive in your daily activities (in your gym, in your supermarket, at your work ...) you can find friendship in people like you. If you do not know how to start a friendship, we recommend you consult our tips for making friends.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
