See someone you love suffer it's really very hard. Seeing how he is in a stormy situation from which he does not know how to get out and that you cannot do anything usually generates a strong feeling of helplessness and anxiety. However, you can do something to help that person: let them know that you are by their side. We must avoid imposing ourselves and being too "heavy", everyone has bad moments in life and, unless they ask us for help, we must let them resolve their conflicts themselves. But we can do something to try to help you and, therefore, in this Psychology-Online article we are going to discover you how to help a person who does not want help.
Tips to help a person who does not want help.
In order to help a person who does not want help, it is important that, first of all, you practice empathy. Learning to put yourself in her shoes is essential so that you can really help her. We must not impose ourselves or force her to be better because, if she is not, she is not. Here we leave you some tips so that you can reach out to her and that
Don't force him
You must help as far as you can and also, as far as your limit is. That is, you should not let the indifference of another person take over your strength because no one can help someone who does not allow themselves to be helped. This is the key when it comes to understanding and assuming that no matter how much you want to do, nothing depends on your will.
Something that can cause enormous frustration, pain and apathy. When you find yourself immersed in the obsession of helping someone who does not allow themselves to be helped, think of yourself first. And understand, that your patience and your ability to endure also has a limit.
Put yourself in their place
But in addition, you must also take care of yourself since in order to help another person, previously, you must take care of yourself and be strong on all levels. Helping a friend with depression is not easy, for example. And in this case, it is essential to understand that the patient needs the help of a professional expert to gradually overcome sadness.
Many people when they are going through a moment of deep pain, disorientation or other types of circumstances, are unable to make an effort to put themselves in the place of the other.
Recommend going to a therapist
If you really want to help a person who does not want help, it is important that you try to convince them to go to a therapist or psychologist. There are circumstances in our lives that we cannot solve alone and, if you see that this person is a little blocked, it is important that you encourage him to visit a professional to get out of that impasse. In addition, it is essential act in time to prevent her from falling into a state of depression from which it is more difficult to get out.
Tips to help a person with depression.
It is quite common for a person with depression to not want help from anyone. More than anything because, most likely, she isolates herself and becomes more and more self-contained. That is why, below, we are going to give you some tips so that you can help a person who does not want help in the case of depression.
Show her that she is an important person to you
Many times, people with depression also feel "abandoned" and a bit relegated to the background. It is clear that you should never force that person to talk to you or to leave her if she does not want to, but it is okay for her to know that you are there and that you love her. Many times, depression can cause someone to start generating negative feelings towards her person and believe that she does not have anyone around her who loves her. Try not to think that and to know that you are by her side, for better and for worse.
Hold out your hand so that he can count on you
You have to respect his space, that's clear. But that does not mean that you do not reach out to him from time to time. Go to her house and bring her a bouquet of flowers, for example, or a comedy movie to spend some time together. Do not be heavy / a or too insistent, leave her space but never go too far. Let her know that you are there and that, for what she needs, you will be there.
Respect their loneliness
It is important that you respect their moments of solitude and intimacy. Many times, if we are going through a bad time, we do not want to be with people. And that is something that must be respected. However, if this is too frequent it is essential that you recommend seeing a psychologist to prevent the situation from getting even worse. Your role, as a friend, should be to be by her side, to be aware of that person but without pressing. This is how you will really help her.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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