We are artists of happiness, we all learn from our own experience to polish our imperfections to generate new possibilities. And yet we have such ingrained habits that breaking these routines is not easy. But there is something that should make you aware of the importance of breaking with certain dynamics: the lack of positive results. What things must you stop doing to be happy?
Index
- Want to control everything
- Criticize for criticizing
- Want to be perfect
- Blame yourself for the past
- Turn your back on your emotions
- Idealize happiness
Wanting to control everything.
This attitude is exhausting, since when we adopt this role we lose sight of the impossibility of being able to handle all the nuances of reality. There are always things that transcend our decisions, unforeseen events that arise without you looking for them. The controlling attitude produces anxiety, since the person constantly lives with the feeling of feeling overwhelmed by events that they do not like.
Criticize for criticizing.
Criticism is not negative in itself, however, it becomes a broken record when you you position yourself in the role of victim and complain about everything you don't like as if you were a child small. In every criticism you make or think, you send a discharge of negativity to your body. So change this inner dialogue.
Wanting to be perfect.
The important thing is not to be perfect but a good person. That the obsession to improve does not become a kind of competition to become more than anyone else. Since any relationship is lived as equals. Forget about being perfect and seek to be happy.
Blame yourself for the past.
As much as you blame yourself for a past event, you can no longer do anything to change it. Therefore, the most important thing is that you focus on the now, that you look for new experiences in the present and that you fight to improve yourself always concentrating your mind and your heart on carpe diem.
Turn your back on your emotions.
For much of the historical period, emotions were a secondary good to reason. Fortunately, the integration of emotional intelligence in our life it allows us to be aware of what makes us truly human. Your emotions give you information about yourself.
Turning your back on your emotions means rationalizing everything to the extreme, leaving aside the value of intuition and hunches. Do not integrate the filter of feeling in the value judgments about reality.
Idealize happiness.
Another thing you must stop doing if you want to be happy is idealizing happiness to the extreme of aspire to a fullness that is impossible In reality, if you understand happiness as being in the cloud of constant emotion as a result of a rosy movie. Life, as you well know, is another story.
Happiness is not measured in the quantitative terms of having but in deeper essential values. Don't get hung up on your goals and enjoy each action plan as a legacy of practical wisdom.
Happiness is the school of life itself. If you want to share your own happiness suggestions, in relation to this article, you can do so in the form of a comment. Thank you!
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