When someone hurts our feelings, either by saying or doing something that hurts us, the most common thing is to want to avoid contact with that person as much as possible. person, wanting to make her disappear from our lives due to the wound that her behavior has caused us and that, if it is very deep, can take a long time to cure.
However, there are times when this is not possible, because that person belongs to our family, work or friends environment or is even our partner. Try as we might, we can't help but feel angry, disappointed, and hurt by what happened, but we have no choice but to keep dealing with him or her. How do we do it then? How do we deal with someone who has hurt our feelings?
First of all, it is very important to know how we feel and not try to hide it. If we want to bury the anger or aversion that we feel towards that person in the first moments, they will resurface with more force. Therefore, it is best that you look for a means to express your feelings, such as drawing, writing, etc.
Take your time to let the feelings subside. If it makes you feel better, talk to the person to explain what made you feel bad and why, although always when you are quite sure that the other will listen to you and will not make you feel bad again.
Try to understand why the other person acted or spoke that way. This will allow you not to see it as harmful behavior for free, but as a consequence of a certain situation. That way, it will be easier for you to forgive him.
Finally, decide if she is a person you can trust, or if, on the contrary, every time you have contact with her, she hurts you. In this case, you must implement the necessary strategies to avoid it.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
