There is a very complex situation in a divorce process. When the children show their position towards one of the parents, then, they reflect their disinterest towards the other parent who suffers from this circumstance. When this fact occurs without a logical cause that has been able to enhance this feeling of feeling greater safety and well-being with the father or mother, then, the children may be being victims of the alienation syndrome parental. In this Psychology-Online article, we answer this question: "My son doesn't want to see me: what do I do?" We inform you of the different actions you can take to solve the situation.
This syndrome reflects a form of child abuse, since the child is being mediated by the negative influence that one of the parents exerts by making negative comments about the other party. When the child suffers from this syndrome he feels that he has to choose between the father or the mother. Feel that by loving one, you betray the other.
This type of syndrome arises from the constant attitude in one of the parents of
In a divorce process, there are aspects that the child should not know, since they are details associated with the breakup itself. When two people divorce, they should keep in mind that the bond as parents lives on. The parental alienation syndrome occurs when a couple loses sight of this perspective, that is, when the resentment for the break-up also affects the children.
If your child rejects you and does not want to see you under any circumstances, you can put the following tips into practice:
- First of all, it is very important identify the cause specific to the situation since, depending on why, the solution may be one or the other. In any circumstance, it is important to seek the collaboration of the other party, that is, of the another parent to act as a team determining clear principles of education family. On occasion, the help of a family mediator may be necessary who, thanks to his knowledge and experience, helps parents to improve communication between them and this has a positive influence on the system itself family.
- At other times, it can also be positive look for a mediator in your own family. However, in that case, it must be a person who has the unconditional trust of the father and mother. This mediator becomes a very important support point to advance the dialogue.
- Consult the case with a child-adolescent psychologist, since as an expert in the field you can analyze the situation in a personalized way, also giving you the appropriate guidelines to act in this context.
- In addition, from the point of view of custody, if you have any inconvenience to see your child on the previously scheduled visitation schedule, consult information with a expert lawyer in the matter so that it informs you about your rights and obligations in this circumstance and what legal means you can take to solve the conflict.
- If your child is an adult and independent person, who has made the decision to distance himself from you, try talk to him, show your interest in solving what happened, remind him that you will be there unconditionally to support him. Trust that everything will be fine and never close the door to reconciliation.
- Any of these situations produces a lot of suffering, for this reason, in this circumstance you should also take care of you. For example, look for emotional support, someone with whom you can talk without any filter about how this fact makes you feel.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
