Communicating well is not an easy task but it is not impossible if you put in the effort and desire. A proper communication based on respect, empathy and assertiveness It should be a priority in our society, starting from all homes and passing as a compulsory subject in schools. But unfortunately this is not the case, and unless as an adult you are interested in the good communication and you train for it, you will stay anchored in a communication that often results deficient.
A lack of communication breaks relationships between people since it is almost impossible to carry appropriately a conflict resolution, a reason why it is essential to know how to communicate in a right way. Having an incorrect way of speaking to others and addressing even in a hurtful way is a horrible thing that not everyone is able to see, recognize and change. Today I want to tell you about some common mistakes in communication that I usually see very frequently, I hope that if you feel identified you will do something to improve it.
Index
- Generalize
- Attack
- Not taking into account the feelings of the other
Generalize.
A common mistake in people's communication is generalize behaviors, something that can make the interlocutor feel hurt. Speaking with expressions that generalize behaviors in people such as "everyone is the same", "you always do the same", "each time you act the same", "You are so heavy"... are expressions that in addition to hurting can seriously affect people's self-esteem, especially if the person it is addressed to is kids.
Attack.
Another mistake for successful communication is personalize against people when you are dealing with a specific topic, taking it personally and even attacking the other person. For example, imagine that someone you love has done something that you did not like and instead of saying what does not seem right to you and why, you choose to tell the person: "You are an asshole, you always do same". With this phrase, how do you think the next thing to happen will happen?
Instead of attacking the other person, it is much smarter to open the dialogue so that you can change the situation that has bothered us, on the other hand, if you decide to attack, we will surely only have problems and discomfort.
Not taking into account the feelings of the other.
Don't you like to be taken into consideration and your feelings taken into account? So why not do the same for others? That is, knowing that the other person is suffering and we can perfectly identify her emotions but we prefer to look the other way until they disappear is a serious communication error, of empathy and even of humanity since it will only make a great wall of communication grow.
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