Relationships with others are important, but the bond that a person maintains with himself is also fundamental. To nurture this self-love, we can observe this process of accompaniment towards ourselves as a learning process. Your dearest people, bring valuable meaning to your present. However, only you can accompany you at all times. And loving yourself means offering yourself this support and this kind look at your being and your essence. ¿How to love yourself? In Psychology-Online, we accompany you in reflecting on the answer.
The task of loving oneself is not easy, how to do it? Here are five ideas to foster your self-love:
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Give yourself the space you deserve in your life. You deserve to be the protagonist of each of the stages of your life. You can no longer modify aspects of yesterday in relation to this question, however, you can decide how you want to live this day. What can you do on this journey to be the protagonist of this time? For example, make that plan that you so often put off for another time. In your dialogues with friends, you ask questions aimed at getting to know the other person better. You too can reflect through inner dialogue.
- Feel the affection you receive. You can nurture your heart by observing love as an element that reaches you beyond your social ties with others. The time you spend with friends and family is meaningful to you, however, you can also feel gratitude from the connection with the present by observing the beauty of a beautiful landscape. See the gifts that life sends you every day through unique moments. For example, a new dawn. Try to focus more on those details that raise your gratitude.
- You are someone special and the people around you are too. This unique essence is part of your own nature as a human being. Try not to compare yourself to other people. In addition, the conclusions you can reach are totally subjective and wrong. Every human being has a unique story. Conquer goals, overcome difficulties, face fears, build bonds and achieve many other purposes from this unique perspective of a biography of a protagonist with his own name. Therefore, your story is special through yourself, but it is also special because of the presence of those who accompany you.
- Spend time with you. A very important tip for loving yourself is to dedicate quality time. As a human being, you live a process of constant evolution throughout each life stage. Share time with you to get to know yourself and enjoy those moments in which you practice activities that you like. Travel if you like to do it, read new books, go for a walk, practice the emotional pleasure of photography, write a journal... These are just a few ideas. Reflect on those moments when you feel especially happy and in contact with the present.
- Set limits. Thinking of you is not a gesture of vanity or selfishness. Through this self-care you also establish assertive limits in your relationships with others. Learn to say no, is one of the most complex communication objectives. However, this learning makes you feel free. And how can you achieve this freedom? Giving you this permission to express what you want.
Love also manifests itself through caring. To foster self-love and love yourself, learn to take care of yourself. How can you take care of yourself every day through simple gestures?
- Healthy food. Something that may seem so obvious is not so obvious when the time of noon is disturbed by avoidable issues. For example, the rush. No matter how many occupations you have each day, there is no aspect that is as important as taking care of yourself and your well-being.
- Get physical exercise. Faced with the risk of sedentary lifestyle, enjoy moments of activity in which you put your body in motion, but also your inner world. Don't take it as an unpleasant obligation, exercise because you love yourself and want to take care of yourself.
- Reduce time in front of television. Enjoy quality content since the entertainment provided by this means of communication is very positive. But do not make this medium your usual company when you are at home. Do activities that focus on yourself.
- Say goodbye to the day with a space for gratitude. To take better care of yourself and love yourself, try to put an end to the day by doing a kind reading to rescue a memory, a gesture or a detail that you want to value.
- Speak well of yourself to others and to yourself. You have qualities that make you unique. It's of vital importance respect yourself.
What are the obstacles that we can find in this learning process? Then, we show you the most typical errors so you can avoid them:
- Wanting to please others. When you condition your well-being to this goal, you boycott your present joy to an end that is totally impossible. What is the most important? That you try to make decisions based on good. It is important to believe in yourself.
- Attachment bonds. The happiest relationships are those that start from freedom and that acquire their maximum expression. One of the risks of attachment ties is staying in them for fear to loneliness. That is, with the desire to fill a void that, on the contrary, grows larger.
- Stay at waiting for external recognition. For example, in the professional field. Do not condition your internal motivation on the desire to receive that external recognition from someone who tells you that you have done a good job. If that circumstance occurs, value that moment. But don't make this question a necessity.
- Postpone decisions oriented to strengthen this self-esteem by remaining stuck in a comfort zone that shows a dynamic of predictable routines that make up this present time. It is a mistake to postpone this decision-making due to the possible fear that fear of change produces.
Therefore, take care of your self-love through the compass of conscious presence that improves your quality of life in an integral way.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
