We all like to be recognized for an achievement or a job well done, whether in the workplace, family or partner, especially if we have worked hard to achieve it. East recognition by others It instills in us self-esteem and self-confidence, lets us know that we are on the right track, and motivates us to keep going. The problem arises when we need that recognition in everything we do and, consciously or not, we act seeking that compliment and that approval. In search of them, we forget ourselves and we limit ourselves to performing those acts that we know will be recognized by others, regardless of whether we want to carry them out or not or whether they make any sense to U.S.
Causes of the need for recognition.
At first, seeing that need for recognition, we feel good, but little by little a strong emotional discomfort is born in us, since this behavior leads us to forget our dreams and hopes and seek only those that we know will be approved by others, even if this means giving up ourselves, our essence, the meaning we want to give to our lifetime.
This almost obsessive search for recognition is usually born from a lack of appreciation of us towards ourselves, so we need others to value what we do in order to value it ourselves.
Tips to overcome the need for approval.
To overcome this need for approval, start by doing a list of all your achievements. Although we think that we have not achieved anything worthwhile in our life, but once we We sit down at the paper and begin to write, we realize that this belief is totally false.
We must be the ones who learn to value our effort objectively, to value our talents and qualities and to congratulate ourselves on our achievements, even if others do not.
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