There is a piece of advice that I have heard that many people apply in their own lives: “Do not expect anything from anyone”In this way, when someone gives you something, you will be surprised and grateful. But instead, you will not suffer for not receiving something that you would like to have. Is it human to put this ideal into practice? Is it realistic?
In essence, this idea of not expecting anything from anyone is sad. The human being is a being with enormous potential, that is, someone who, in reality, must generate hope and full confidence. On the other hand, in the very essence of love and friendship is waiting: waiting for affection, affection and recognition.
Perhaps not expecting anything from anyone is the consequence of individualistic society in which we find ourselves, however, this ideal is totally contrary to the construction of a solid interpersonal relationship in which we must give and take. It is good to be able to expect support from someone, to know that they are there in an unconditional way.
One thing is not expect anything from anyone and quite another, generating excessive expectations for yourself of any person and in any situation. You have to understand that every human being has his concerns, his limits and his projects. But that does not mean that if you need help, ask for it. From that moment on, it is the freedom of the other to give you that help or take it away.
When someone says to you the phrase: "Do not expect anything from anyone", in reality, they are transmitting a message of sadness that causes pain when someone is in a difficult moment in their life. In life there are many superficial and even hypocritical relationships. Bet on those that are one hundred percent authentic and bring light to your soul and your present.
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