We are not perfect. This is a statement that we must keep clear in our mind. We are not perfect but NOTHING happens. It is normal that, sometimes, we make mistakes and that, in these mistakes, we can hurt the feelings of someone we love. It may be that in the past you have made a mistake and that, because of this, now you cannot raise your head. But it is important to learn to forgive yourself and, thus, be able to turn the page. In this Psychology-Online article we are going to discover you how to make peace with yourself giving you some of the best tips that will help you to love and respect yourself again. Everyone is wrong, the important thing is to learn from our mistakes and become better people.
In order to make peace with yourself, it is important that, first of all, you stop whipping yourself. Surely you have acted badly or you have committed some acts of which you do not feel at all satisfied. First of all, understand that you, like everyone else, are also wrong. And it is important that you also understand that
So let yourself be considered a bad person and admit that you have been wrong and that you have done wrong. If you are able to accept your mistakes and repent for them, you are already having an attitude that is far from evil since you are being empathetic and you are experiencing regret. Therefore, first of all is that get rid of the idea that you are a bad person Beacause you are not.
After this essential first step, here we are going to give you some more basic tips so you can make peace with yourself.
Embrace your flaws and forgive yourself for your flaws
Everyone has flaws and everyone has virtues. We cannot pretend to be the best in everything and never be wrong because, then, we will live deceived and expecting to be in a way that, really, we cannot be. Therefore, it is essential that you practice a exercise of complete sincerity with yourself and discover what your strengths are, as well as what your shortcomings are. Try to make this list as objective as possible so that you can perform a 100% honest exercise.
Once you have done this, observe your flaws and try not to torture yourself for them. You can try to change one by one to file those parts of you that you do not like. But do not be overwhelmed, go step by step trying to improve as a person. Life is an exciting and passionate journey, and one of the best journeys you will take during your lifetime will be your inner journey. So do not be in a hurry to do it and improve progressively.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Many people spend their entire lives comparing themselves to others. And although it can be a positive thing to see how the people around you live, the truth is that it can also be very stressful and frustrating. The important thing is not what you do in relation to other people but what you do in relation to yourself. That is, you have to be comfortable with the life you lead, be satisfied with your achievements and with the goals that you are achieving.
We must remember that Every person is a world and, as such, each one has its own rhythms and times. Therefore, comparing yourself with others does not make any sense, what you have to do is live in the way in which you feel full, comfortable and satisfied. Only then, you can be at peace with yourself in a full way.
Forgive your past and live the present
To be able to make peace with yourself, it is essential that you turn the page on that fact from the past that is holding you back. Surely there is something that you have not been able to forgive yourself and, therefore, you remain stagnant without allowing yourself to move forward or be happy in your day to day. But you have to be clear about one thing: the past is past. It cannot be changed, you have to learn to live with it and, above all, get a life lesson about what has happened.
If there has been someone you have hurt in your past and you cannot live in peace, you can try to send your apologies to them. Do it in a respectful way and, always, if that person is willing to accept them. You must practice empathy and take responsibility for your actions but neither will you be martyred. You learn about everything in life so try to get the learning out and continue on your way.
If you want to make peace with yourself it is important that you try to make a change of perspective about yourself and about life. It is likely that you have been wrong, that you have acted in a wrong way and that, now, your conscience does not let you breathe. However, you must accept your mistake, forgive yourself for it and continue as best you can.
And for this, nothing better than trying to change your vision of life to have a more positive and optimistic perspective. To achieve this, you can try doing some traininglike, for example, positive reinforcement that consists of repeating motivational and optimistic phrases like "I deserve to be happy", "I can get whatever I want", and so on.
In addition, another important point to be able to relax and have a better conception of yourself is that stop demanding yourself so much. Many times, excess perfectionism can make us never happy or satisfied with what we do. It's okay to be a little picky about yourself but never go overboard. We must press when we must press but also congratulate ourselves when we manage to achieve some achievement or overcome some difficulty. Here are some tips for you to learn how to be less self-demanding and that, thus, you enjoy a much fuller and happier life.
And we end this article with the best tips so that you can make peace with yourself to talk about something that, many times, we forget: in your life YOU command. What does this mean? Well, if there is something you don't like, you have the power to change it and improve it. We must never forget how powerful we are and how strong we are. Let's not make the mistake of putting ourselves in the position of victim and, if there is something that you really do not like or do not make you happy, change it.
You can reinvent yourself and start from scratch, start a new stage in your life with much clearer and more defined energy and goals. Think that life is very short and that we should live it as we really want and we really want (without harming anyone, of course). Therefore, we want to remind you that you are the owner of your own destiny, so start from scratch and rebuild your happiness. If you want... you may!
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
