For Ana M. Bastida of Miguel. March 15, 2018
Individualism is the cancer of the 21st century. We and our children are tied to rewarding machines: DVD, TV, game console, Internet... Working alone undermines true friendship. Friends commit a lot and the individualist doesn't like compromises!
However, we need more than ever great and good friends but humans, people with whom to share many hours sincere and close conversations, real friendships, who support us and they know authentically, that they accept us as we are with our failures and with our virtues, that they promote the best that there is in all U.S... Selecting friends like this for us and for ours will be the best investment we can make, both for the present and for the future.
- All right, I was sure you could do it.
- I have no doubt that you are trying hard, it shows by how well you have done.
- I'm very proud of you.
- You know? I love you very much.
- I congratulate you for what you have done, I could not have done it better.
- I'm noticing that you do better every day, what a difference from how you did it before.
- See how you notice that you are improving (compare it with something done previously and that is something worse).
- You can get where you want because every day you try a little more.
- Your effort is worthy of an example.
- As long as you continue like this, I don't know how far you are going to go, every day you do better (for example, after checking what has been studied, what has been collected, anything positive has been done).
- The next few notes will be better, given how hard you are trying.
- I know you can get it, do you remember how you did it before ...
The important is know what we want to modify and once we have defined and identified it, go to catch them in any positive detail, no matter how minimal, and that is related to the behavior or aptitude that we are trying to modify.
There is one very important thing that we can transmit to our children and it is that if they fight and make an effort they can lose but if they don't fight they are already lost And the same goes for our family life, if we fight for it, we will never be lost.
A family that tries to follow these principles contributes to improving both their children's self-esteem and their self-esteem.
Increasing self-esteem involves systematically doing what is proposed here. Not in a specific way or sometimes yes and sometimes no, but systematically and imposing it as an objective to be achieved.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
