Although, due to their personality, people may think that people with a narcissistic personality cannot fall in love, this is completely wrong. These types of people can fall in love just like other people, however, their concept of relationship and their emotional needs differ slightly from non-narcissistic people.
In Psychology-Online we want to introduce and teach you how a narcissist in love acts, how these people behave in love relationships and the reasons why they behave in this way.
Narcissists tend to act in a certain way when they fall in love and want to get that person's attention. Therefore, when a narcissistic person is in love, you can identify the following characteristics in their actions:
- At first the narcissist will act praising and entertaining to the person she is attracted to. They are extremely loving and attentive.
- Will always try get along before the other person. Strive for show your best image in order to ensure that they are remembered.
- They will never accept being wrong with the person they like. For them, the only way to do things is their way, so they don't want to seem like a person who makes mistakes.
- He will do his best to let the other person see you as their savior, as someone who cannot let go and, in this way, create a need for dependence on him.
Although there are times when the narcissistic person finds that perfect idyllic and romantic love, this situation does not last forever, because over time it is transformed into a much more realistic relationship, in which the advantages and failures of the other. This is when the narcissist does not accept the relationship, because under no circumstances can they tolerate that there are flaws or flaws in their person, since they would have to accept that they are not as perfect as they think.
Narcissists by nature have the goal of making their partner become dependent towards them, as this will increase their feelings of superiority. They need to feel like they have their partner's full attention, and if not, they appear in jealousy. Jealousy in narcissists tends to be much more exaggerated than in other people and they act by threatening their partner to change their attitude if they want to continue with them.
If the narcissist accommodates himself in the relationship what he will do is blame the partner of her own flaws and most likely she will grow bored with that person, projecting all her emotional turmoil onto her. But contrary to what most people do of leaving their partner when they are out of love, the narcissist will never do so unless he has some other alternative. It is not for this reason that strange to see a narcissist unfaithful to your partner frequently. In the following article you will discover the best way to act in the face of infidelity.
When do narcissists leave their partner? Once you have found a new partnerThere, he will be able to leave the previous one and will apply what is known as the discard phase. In this phase the narcissist has left his partner without remorse and avoids any contact with him or her, disparaging the other person and acting as if they did not exist in absolute.
Do narcissists return? Many times. One must be careful with narcissists once a relationship ends, because for them, the people who are or have been part of their life are their properties. That is, they feel entitled to reappear in their lives as many times as they want and when they want. Therefore, it is not surprising that after a while the narcissistic person try again to maintain contact and even resume the relationship with his ex-partner. If you are at that point, you may wonder if a narcissist can change. In the article you will find a reflection on the narcissistic personality and its possibilities and conditions for change.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
