PERVERSE NARCISSIST: 25 Characteristics and How to Treat It

Without wanting to, people are selfish by nature since, from the moment we are born, we tend to request a series of attentions from those around us.

During the development of our personality, they are becoming more or less present in our behavior, actions aimed at achieving our own objectives. However, the important thing about these actions is to see if they are achieved through one's own work or at the expense of others.

In Psychology-Online, we want to present you with a type of behavior which bases all its actions on obtaining what they want, regardless of the damage they may cause to others. These are the perverse narcissists, we will see its characteristics and how to treat it.

Index

1. What is a perverse narcissist
2. How to recognize a perverse narcissist: 25 characteristics
3. How to treat a wicked narcissist
4. How to leave a perverse narcissist
5. How to forget a perverse narcissist

These types of people act destructively and do everything in their power so that those around them enter into a spiral of

This term does not describe a type of pathology or personality in itself, but rather it is a tool when it comes to building romantic relationships. The perverse narcissist seeks total control in their relationships. Therefore, he has to be considered as a person who puts into tactics a series of strategies (socially maladaptive but many times accepted by society) in order to achieve their objective.

We can identify a perverse narcissist since he presents the following traits and behaviors:

1. They are people lacking empathy.
2. They appear to be friendly and charming, using wicked seduction to get closer to their victims.
3. If they are confronted, they act upset.
4. They can become aggressive and violent if situations get out of their control.
5. They feel unique or special, so they can only be understood by people of the same level.
6. They feel the right to deserve more privileges than other people.
7. They demand excessive attention and admiration.
8. They have recurring unlimited success fantasies.
9. They exploit others for their own interests and goals.
10. They have signs of persistent envy.
11. Shows arrogant and presumptuous behavior.
12. They fiercely and cruelly criticize those they see as a threat.
13. His level of sociability is empty, superficial and false.
14. They have a exaggerated self-esteem.
15. They are people who try to slip away when they see that someone is going to unmask them.
16. They act by attacking the self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem of those around them.
17. He will use the double meaning of words to position himself as a victim in any situation that favors him.
18. They are people capable of reasoning very logically.
19. They have the skills to make their actions justified.
20. If you are envious of other people's moral qualities, you will do your best to destroy those virtues.
21. They are experts in speaking in an ambiguous way which generates confusion in the other person. In addition, they are characterized by not finishing their sentences, which destabilizes their victims.
22. They tend to lie continuouslyHowever, they do not do it in a one hundred percent straightforward way, but instead use innuendo and silences in a way that creates misunderstandings from which you will be able to profit in the future.
23. It uses projective defense mechanisms where it makes other people live what they cannot bear.
24. They are not aware of your problem. They, according to his mind, represent perfection, so they do not have to change anything about themselves.
25. They are completely chameleonic. Since they themselves do not have a defined identity, they can adapt their way of being and their tastes depending on who they want to seduce.

It is highly recommended to try to avoid by all possible means, establish emotional and emotional ties with these people since, a relationship with a perverse narcissist can be very destructive for the other person.

If you perceive that you are dealing with someone with this type of behavior, put distance between the two as soon as possible. But do it quickly because the perverse narcissists need to create a bond to be able to exert the influence of him so, once he has established it, he will not allow the other person to walk away.

The best way to deal with a perverse narcissist is ignoring it Well, the way he works, starts from the basis of creating conflicts between his victims and the rest of the people so that he ends up depending completely on him.

For this reason, you must always be alert when you have the impression that you are dealing with a person with this type of behavior since, in this way, you can anticipate his actions.

Avoid getting into fights and disputes with him or her since, if they do, they will use everything they have in their repertoire to always be right and hurt you.

There is a clear difficulty when it comes to walking away from a narcissistic person as a result of the dependence that he, through deceit, has managed to create in his victim. However, once that distance is created, the symptoms caused by the relationship with it begin to disappear.

It is recommended go to therapy, but not to overcome the distance with the perverse narcissist, but to identify and find out which were the reasons that made him succumb to it and, in this way, avoid repeating this saying again situation.

To separate yourself from a narcissistic person, you have to cut off any communication with her. This can be very difficult as narcissists are not easily resigned to losing someone whom they consider to be their "property." You have to avoid relapsing by all possible means because, if you do, you will feed the desire for control and dependence on him. As much as it provokes you, ignore it so that it realizes that it no longer has an effect on you.

Forgetting a narcissist is not as difficult as it may seem. This is because, at the moment in which the ties with that person are broken and they begin to symptoms of dependence, underestimation, abuse... disappear, a recovery process begins and improves.

During this stage, the victim of the perverse narcissist begins to realize the relationship that she had developed with him and how it had influenced her person so much. Thus, as more and more distance is created between the narcissist and the victim, this second initiates a process of forgetting towards her.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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