There is a type of abuse that, although it seems more subtle and silent, can be even worse than physical abuse. It is a type of violence that can make the victim suffer throughout her life if she does not dares to confront his abuser and more than anything if he is not aware of the situation that he is living. Psychological abuse occurs when a person verbally assaults another, directly or indirectly.
The abuser usually manipulates the affected person, devalues them and blames them, so if you feel identified with this situation, you have realized that the person you love or one of them is abusing you psychologically, this article from Psychology-Online on how to stop a psychological abuser It will be of great help to you so that you can achieve it and never allow another person to mistreat you in any way.
There are a number of attitudes What should we take into account for identify if we are being psychologically abused. Among the most important are the following:
- Constant teasing and making a fool of yourself.
- Abuse.
- Teasing.
- Lack of interest in your feelings, opinions, and thoughts.
- Feeling of being treated as a person incapable of doing things well.
- He constantly corrects you for your "bad" behavior.
- You constantly repeat that he or she is always right.
- It highlights your mistakes more than the things you do well.
- He speaks to you in a derogatory tone.
- It doesn't show empathy for you.
- It does not respect your own decisions.
- It makes you feel worthless.
- Invade your privacy.
There are a series of characteristics that identify people who are psychologically abused, among the most common are the following:
- They have a very low self-esteem, so they feel that they are not worthy of receiving love and respect from others.
- They have a hard time making their own decisions and prefer that others make them for them.
- They blame themselves for other people's problems.
- They act passively all the time.
- They do not feel capable of defending their own rights.
- It is very difficult for them to say "no" when they do not want to do something.
- They are often emotionally dependent on other people.
- They feel that they are not capable of solving their problems on their own.
If you feel identified with this situation and would like to put a stop to it, you should know that there is always a way out, that you are worth a lot and that you are capable of asserting your personal rights. Next, we are going to mention a series of practical tips with which you can stop a psychological abuser:
- Raise awareness. You must be fully aware of the psychological damage that this person is causing you and that they will not change no matter how much they assure you.
- Stay close to your loved ones. Instead of walking away from people who love you like your family and friends, the best thing you can do is get back in touch with them again. Talk to them about what is happening to you, call them, go visit them and allow them to support you in these moments.
- You are not the culprit. The abuser will always make you feel guilty about the situation and his actions. Remember that the only person responsible for them is him, do not let him hold you responsible for his bad actions.
- Don't justify yourself. There is no justification for a person to mistreat you. Nobody has the right to disrespect you and treat you as if you are inferior. Stop justifying yourself and accept that someone is mistreating you without deserving it.
- Stay away from the abuser. Since the abuser is not going to change, the only solution is to get away from that person. If it is difficult for you to do it overnight, move away little by little but do not let too much time pass. It is necessary that from now on you begin to do it and that you break that vicious cycle of abuse in which you find yourself involved.
- Psychological help. If you have been a victim of abuse for a long time and you feel that you cannot put a stop to that situation, the best thing you can do is seek psychological help. The goal of psychological therapy will be to help you increase your self esteem which is now quite affected, to empower you to feel valuable enough, to find strategies to defend yourself and make yourself respected and, above all, so that you can get out of that destructive relationship with your abuser.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
