When a person has been suffering over time from constant abuse and mistreatment, such as psychological abuse in this case, something in that person changes and can have many consequences on a psychological and emotional level that can even be deeper than the physical. As we know, psychological abuse is not like physical abuse that can be perceived with the naked eye, however if we make a comparison between the way of being and acting of the person who has been abused before and after the abuse, we will be able to clearly perceive the changes that have Dyed.
All people who have been or are being abused by their partner suffer more or less profound consequences depending on the time they have remained in that relationship. situation of abuse, their individual characteristics, the support they have received from people close to them, their ability to cope with situations adverse, etc. In this Psychology-Online article, we are going to let you know which are the main consequences of psychological abuse in the partner.
Index
- What is psychological abuse?
- Aftermath of a psychologically abused person
- Depression and helplessness after psychological abuse
What is psychological abuse?
When we speak of psychological abuse we refer to any type of behavior that is carried out continuously towards a person where it is intended end your emotional well-being. The way in which the emotional well-being of the victim of abuse is gradually being destroyed is through verbal aggression. Verbal aggression can be carried out in a subtle or direct way, making the victim suffer constantly and whether through intimidation, devaluation, guilt or fear (among other types of highly harmful attitudes to her).
All this is achieved thanks to the "love" and dependence that the abused person feels towards his abuser, who usually takes full advantage of the situation. The person who is being abused may not realize what is happening and / or may also be confused, which worsens with the passing of the time since she loses her self-confidence and her self-esteem may deteriorate to the point of feeling totally insecure and defenseless in front of her abuser.
Aftermath of a psychologically abused person.
A person who is in a situation of psychological abuse in the partner You can be the victim of countless psychological consequences. Next I am going to mention in a general way what are the most common consequences of abuse.
Loss of self esteem
Losing self-esteem is the main consequence of any type of abuse. The longer you stay with the abuser, the more the victim's self-esteem will decline. Battered people have increasingly low self-esteem and by not loving, valuing and respecting themselves, they believe that anyone has the right to treat them unfairly. The self-esteem of the person diminishes so much that they may come to believe that the abuser She is really doing her a favor by being by her side since they do not believe they are worthy of anyone or nothing good.
Isolation and loneliness
A person who is being abused psychologically, in the end ends up gradually isolating himself from his family, friends and other important people in her life. This is because generally the abuser or the abuser through threats or blackmail cause the victim to lose contact with others, gradually isolating them from them. In the abused person, a feeling of intense loneliness appears, which causes them to continue clinging to the abuser of her and a quite negative vicious circle is generated.
Depression
Finally, victims of abuse end up suffering from depression due to the high degree of stress and anxiety to which they are exposed, but mainly because they have reached a point where their self-esteem has dropped too much. They feel that they cannot really do anything to improve their situation, they stop finding meaning in life, it is impossible for them to find one motivation or see the positive side of things, they suffer much more than they enjoy, among many others that lead them to easily suffer from this disorder.
Stress and anxiety
It is normal for people who are suffering from psychological abuse to go through a series of ups and downs emotional every day due to the stress they feel from being abused constantly. To this we add feeling increasingly defenseless and insecure, without sufficient capacity and strength. to do something for themselves and thus continue to carry out their daily activities in the best way possible. So stress and anxiety are the order of the day, followed by excessive psychological exhaustion.
Feelings of guilt
Due to the constant emotional blackmail that the abuser exerts on the victim, she finally ends up feeling guilty for everything that happens to her. She even comes to feel that she deserves to be abused because she "does not do things right" for example, among other things that she perceives as normal without realizing that she is wrong.
Depression and helplessness after psychological abuse.
Syndrome learned helplessness, a term coined by Seligman, refers to those situations where the person who suffers from it has constantly suffered from abuse and adverse situations where she has learned not to react since he feels that he cannot do anything to remedy what is happening to him and he gets used to living like this. An excellent example would be that of a victim of abuse who feels devastated due to the psychological exhaustion that she has accumulated for a long time from being continuously exposed to abuse and creates the belief that she is really helpless. The person has the false conviction that nothing she does will be able to help her, that she is not in control of the situation and therefore that she is condemned to remain that way her entire life.
The motivation that you may have previously had to defend yourself and get ahead disappears due to this lack of belief in helplessness. All this causes the person to stop fighting to put a stop to their abuser and learn to live exposed to abuse without ever looking further. Really the limits that the person has that prevent him from going forward and leaving the abuse behind she has wrongly imposed them on herself because we all have enough potential to achieve it.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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