When you are in a relationship and even when you do not have the relationship as such with the other person, sometimes we can get to confuse two feelings that, although very similar, are totally opposite, such as love and obsession. Love is a very deep and intense feeling that even changes our brain chemistry. For all this, it is easy for a person who is in love to fail to identify to what extent the love he feels is becoming or has already become an obsession.
In this article from Psychology-Online: how to know if i have an obsession with a person, we are going to give you some of the signs that what you feel is an obsession and not a crush.
- Obsession for a person: symptoms
- Obsession and insomnia
- Insecurity with oneself
- Obsession for a person: your world centers on them
Obsession for a person: symptoms.
A person who is in love can do crazy things for the person they love or make decisions that they would never have imagined they could make, such as moving to another country for being close to him (her), dedicating much of his time and / or money to be with that person, making very long trips to be able to spend one more day with him (her), among many things more.
Next we are going to show you what are the main symptoms of a person who is experiencing an obsession and not love. ¿In love or psychologically hooked? Pay attention to these series of symptoms since if you feel identified with one or most of them, it is a great indicator that you are obsessed by that person.
ALL the time you are thinking about that person
You spend all the time thinking about that person, to the degree that you are beginning to forget yourself, your interests and even some of your needs. You have found it difficult to focus on your work, school, and just about everything you do.
You often forget important things that you have to do because that person occupies each and every one of your thoughts. Your thoughts towards that person are based mainly on the concern generated by imagining that at some point he (she) may meet another person and stop loving you, in carefully planning the next meeting, thinking about what I could be doing right now without you, as I know. He will be feeling with you, you fear that he does not love you as much as you want, among many other thoughts that only produce tension and stress.
You are aware of everything she does
You live it on the lookout for hers and spend all your time spying on him / her by all possible means. So you make use of social networks to realize or at least have clues about where he will be at the moment, who he will be with, what he will be doing, among other things. You are also aware that if you have met new people and if so, you start to investigate who they are, where you have met them, etc. I mean, you become a private detective whose only priority is be informed at all times of every move the other person makes. You even tend to check her mobile, (in case you can have access to it) reading her messages one by one, finding out about all her contacts, reviewing all her photos, etc. In short, you don't stop planning new strategies to keep up to date with that person in detail.
Obsession and insomnia.
Sleep is another aspect that is related to falling in love. People in love, generally, tend to sleep less due to the degree of excitement caused by thinking about the person they love. For example, they can go to bed imagining how and when their next meeting will be, how much fun they have with that person, creating stories related to the following encounters or imagining what their life would be like together, among others things.
This, to a certain extent, is normal and typical at this stage in which a person is extremely in love, especially at the beginning of the relationship or when they are just getting to know each other. However, we can say that this has begun to become an obsession when, days, weeks and months go by and you continue without being able to sleep well, worries don't let you sleep and sleeping less and less hours, the thoughts that were previously more positive and related to the perfect love story, now have become extremely negative and catastrophic since at the same time that he imagines himself with the perfect relationship, there always appears the terrible fear of thinking that the other person could desert you. You spend a long time finding yourself most of the time physically and emotionally ill due to lack sleep, you have dreams and / or nightmares often with that person, you notice that each time you feel worse and more Exhausted.
Insecurity with oneself.
You notice that with the passage of time, probably since you met that person, the confidence that you previously had in yourself has diminished considerably. Before you considered yourself a person with a higher self-esteem, more independent, more cheerful, you felt that your happiness did not depend on anything or anyone and now you find that the opposite is happening to you.
Right now you feel that without that person life would not have much meaning for you, you feel good being only next to him, you feel very intraquilo (a) when they are separated and you have the constant feeling that at any moment he could leave you. By focusing solely and exclusively on that person, you have begun to put aside everything you liked to do, You no longer enjoy being with your friends and family as before, you feel more vulnerable and dependent on the other (to). It may also be that you no longer dare to start new projects or set yourself new goals since you feel unable to achieve them. In short, being with that person, rather than helping you to be better and better and to feel more happy and confident, you notice that with each passing day you feel worse about yourself and more attached to it (her).
Obsession for a person: your world centers on him.
You have realized that you have reached a point where you no longer speak and much less visit your friends and even your family since you dedicate all your free time to spend with that person. You feel that you do not care about anything or anyone else, be it other people or the circumstances you are going through, the most important thing for you is that person. The only thing that worries you is be okay with him (her) Because at this moment it is the only reason you have to be happy and in case something goes wrong between you, you are sure that your world would fall apart.
It may also be the case that if you were a person who really liked meeting new people and interacting with others, now you are hiding from everyone and that great interest that you used to have seems as if it had disappeared overnight. All your plans, your life goals, your day to day are focused on that person and on you, on no one else.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
If you want to read more articles similar to How to know if I have an obsession with a person, we recommend that you enter our category of Feelings.