On many occasions, facing the end of a breakup is difficult and is not a dish of good taste for anyone. Suddenly, everything changes and you go from being part of a person's present to becoming her past. There are those who hold on to the fact that the situation will be temporary and the person will come back with you, even so, Despite all the attempts you have made, you realize that your ex-partner closes all the paths that lead to you.
Do you think your ex regrets it and wants to come back? Do you think that maybe your ex partner is looking for you again? In this Psychology-Online article we are going to give you 8 signs that your ex doesn't want to get back with you.
Index
- Ignores you
- Avoid conversations with you
- Compassionate posture
- New romance
- Disconnection
- Selective information
- Radical change
- Social media blocking
- Avoid talking about the relationship
He ignores you.
Perhaps you have tried to establish contact with your ex partner and, to your surprise, every time you have made contact, you have received no response.
Avoid conversations with you.
There are couples that break up but have many things in common: friends, co-workers, etc. You realize that now that you have put an end to what is yours because this person constantly avoids the places where you can find yourself or, if you coincide, try by all means not having to cross a word with you. That can be a phase of mourning for the end of your relationship, but within it there is also the desire to overcome yours and rebuild your lives in separate ways.
Compassionate posture.
Perhaps it was the other person who has decided to put an end to the relationship with you. It is then that the person may have feelings of guilt for the possible harm that he has caused you and Behaviors appear that try to compensate for this pain, such as staying with you or talking to you to find out how are you. All of this may be an attempt to show you that you have been important to him or her and that it feels bad to see you like thisIn this way, too, the guilt he feels diminishes.
If you think that the reasons why your ex partner keeps talking to you or tells you to stay are these and they give you hope and they hurt you more than they heal, you should tell them. If she just keeps talking to you, it may help to read this article where we talk about why is your ex looking for you if she doesn't want to go back to you.
New romance.
A very clear sign is if your ex already has someone else in her life. Perhaps it may seem hasty or a bounce ratio. Even so, if the other person is already holding the hand of another couple, it is a very clear sign that for the moment there will be nothing else with you.
Disconnection.
It seems that there is a black hole in the earth and it has swallowed your ex partner, if the person has decided to take refuge in himself herself or make her life without giving any sign of life of where she is or what she is doing, is a clear sign that she does not want to return and she is trying to rebuild his life after the breakup without maintaining contact with those things that may remind you of you.
Selective information.
A sign that your ex partner does not want to go back to you and also wants to show you, is when she sends you or informs you of the things that she chooses, you detect that she manages all so that it reaches you according to what information that makes you open your eyes and realize that she is no longer part of your lifetime.
Radical change.
You have spent time with your ex and you know what she likes, what she doesn't like, what makes her laugh, what her favorite food is, etc. Since you left her, she has changed 180 degrees in everything: from the way she dresses to the places she frequents. This fact can be either a way to overcome the breakup for the other person, or a way to express to yourself that everything she did was for you. and that you did not let her be who she was or that she is a very adaptable person and that perhaps she has found another partner and your ex has incorporated their her customs.
Blocking of social networks.
One way of telling you that he doesn't want anything else with you is by blocking yourself from social media so you can't keep track of him. You must respect her decision, even though it hurts, and accept the meaning that this action has and that is that at the moment this person is not willing to return to you. In this article we talk in depth about why your ex has blocked you and what you should do.
Avoid talking about the relationship.
Perhaps you have ended in a friendly way and also have friends in common. So, when you meet, you maintain a cordial relationship, but if the subject of your relationship comes up or you remind him of something about when you were together, you detect that the situation immediately becomes tense and is something you want to ignore so as not to give false hope or show illusion for it. Avoiding talking about the relationship is another sign that your ex doesn't want to get back with you.
If you have not felt identified with these situations and you want to know if your ex still loves you, in the following article you will find the signs that your ex still loves you. In case it is your wish, in this article we provide some tips to keep in mind to get your ex back.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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