Love can sometimes be very complicated. Maybe you are meeting someone, but you have many doubts about what they feel. Does the person you like send you mixed signals? Can't you clarify with his way of acting? In this Psychology-Online article we teach you how to distinguish between fear of falling in love and lack of interest.
Do you like me but are you afraid of falling in love? A person who is afraid of falling in love will present the following characteristics. Here are signs that you are in love but afraid:
- He suffered a lot in his last relationship. When someone has a bad time in a relationship, they usually avoid having another out of fear, especially if it hasn't been long ago. You will need to go through a recovery process that takes time to be able to trust again and understand that no two relationships are the same.
- You feel that he pays attention to you and who has an interest in you. For example, he looks at you, asks other people about you, ...
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It's not coherent: He tells you over and over again that he does not want to be in a relationship and yet acts as if he were your partner. You have even noticed his jealousy on occasion.
- Try to get you out of his life. In fact, she has already said goodbye to you several times, but then she writes you messages so that you keep him / her in mind.
- She seems like she enjoys your company. For example, when you are there you extend your stay and when you are not you leave earlier. When you are together he seems happy.
- Seeks to be with you and alone. Find excuses to be alone with you without being noticed.
- Flirt with you. There have been compliments, approaches, etc.
- They are interested in your preferences and tastes. For example, he listens to music that he knows you like and talks about topics that he knows interest you.
- Is distant and does not speak of her feelings. She gives you the feeling that she doesn't want to get romantically involved. Sometimes a person, when he begins to fall in love, walks away due to the fear of having a bad time if the relationship does not go well.
- The clearest sign is that she told you. Maybe on some occasion she has been sincere and has told you that she is afraid of falling in love.
In the following article you will find the causes of fear of falling in love.
Fear of falling in love or zero interest? How can we differentiate if it is one or the other? If there really is a lack of interest, you will notice the following details:
- Doesn't show any interest in your projects, your tastes or your problems. When you are together they do not show interest in what you say.
- You only stay when he or she feels like it and for the plans that suit you regardless of what you want.
- He is not interested in your environment, does nothing to get along with your friends or your environment. Avoid by all means meeting any of your family members.
- Prefer plans with other people. If he has to choose between a plan with his friends or with you, he has no doubts about going with them.
- Few or no times does he take the initiative to send you messages. Sometimes it takes forever to reply to your messages. Sometimes he doesn't even answer you.
- When you argue he never asks for your forgiveness, although it is clear that he is guilty.
- He has no signs of affection towards you neither in person nor in messages.
- No physical close-ups in public: When you walk down the street, he avoids grabbing or holding your hand and he is really uncomfortable when you do.
- Has no interest in introducing you to their environment: He has not told his family about you and does not intend to do so.
- If you reproach him for his attitude, he gets angry or doesn't care, he is not interested in how you are feeling nor does he intend to change his attitude. Comment that you are too demanding or heavy.
- In general, avoid taking pictures with you And if it gives in, it doesn't like you uploading it to your social networks.
- You do not appear on their social networks nor does he usually talk about you with his friends or family.
- Don't pay attention to you: when he is with you, he seems to be more aware of his mobile.
- Your meetings are usually nocturnal and apart from others.
- You have felt used: as if there is something he wants to get from you.
The signs you just read will help you differentiate when it is fear of falling in love or lack of interest. There are several important aspects to learn to differentiate between one and the other.
- Interest in your life, problems, projects and concerns. If that person is not really interested in any of this, it is clear that neither are you. The person who is afraid of falling in love is interested in these issues, even if he tries to hide it, you will notice it.
- When you are together. If you tend to avoid being seen, your conversations are often sexual in content, you don't pay attention when you talk to him and he does not remember the things you have said on other occasions: he does not have interest. If, on the other hand, he remembers that story about your cousin, he just looks at her phone and is interested in hearing from you: he likes you, but he's afraid of falling in love.
- Contact. When he likes you: if they don't see you for several days, contact you. It has no interest: you always contact yourself or you do not remember the last time you took the initiative.
- Personal appearance. Their appearance in your encounters can also give you clues. If he seems to have taken time to get ready, he likes you. If you have gone as you would go anywhere else or you do not seem to have showered, it is not very interesting.
- Conversations. If he seems to agree with you in almost everything and is on your side when you talk about the argument you had with someone: he likes you. If you argue regularly and he never seems to be on your side: he is not interested too much.
In the following article you will find information about What to do when someone does not want anything serious.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
