Envy is one of the most damaging feelings in the professional environment since companionship is real when a person is happy about the successes that happen to others. On the contrary, envy shows the disgust and sadness felt by those who experience the brightness of others as a threat to their own personal excellence. How to protect yourself from envy at work?
In Psychology-Online we give you ideas that can help you create a positive climate in the office, minimizing the risk of feeling affected by the vision of jealousy since you can transform this point of view by an attitude of admiration that is more resilient.
However, envy is a feeling that you can not only experience as the protagonist, other people can also envy you. Obviously, you are not in control of the situation when it comes to preventing anyone from feeling this way with you. However, you can influence to create healthy bonds of companionship and learn to deal with envious people:
- Do not change in your treatment of others even if your circumstances change. This is one of the most important premises. Perhaps you have achieved success, however, your personal core remains the same because your value as a person transcends this concrete fact. When humility and simplicity in the treatment of others they describe your way of being, then, these qualities are really admirable.
- Help others and consult your doubts when you need it. In relation to the previous point, a natural consequence of humility is to have a active willingness to collaborate by sharing their own knowledge, but also, to have the interest of obtaining new ideas thanks to the point of view of others.
- Beware of the desire to be a protagonist in meetings or in teamwork. You have your space, but you also have to respect that of others. Use your own common sense by not monopolizing the speaking time in any context. Learn to listen.
- Try to stay out of any conversation in which the topic of the conversation is destructive criticism of someone who is not present. That is, be a transparent person in dealing so that others perceive the authenticity that is in you in your behaviors.
- If you have the opportunity to present innovative ideas to improve work in the company, then he raises solutions that can be an overall improvement for you and your colleagues. Beyond any type of individualistic vision, it also finds space for the common good.
- You cannot be liked by everyone, therefore, when a partner is envious of you, do not play the game of believing that you have to do something to change this situation. Try to treat that person with cordiality and focus your main attention on those colleagues who are your main support.
To understand envy and know how to protect yourself from it, it is also advisable to understand why it occurs, that is, diagnose the reasons that accompany it:
- Favoritism. When employees observe visible differences in the treatment received by the organization, when many of them sit down in a second plane in the face of the frequent protagonism of one or more colleagues, then, this unequal treatment must be corrected by the resources department humans.
- Internal deficiencies. Employees also transfer the insecurities they accumulate around their own professional performance or the way they perceive themselves to their daily work at the company. A low self-esteem It increases the risk of suffering envy at some point in the professional career because the affected person is constantly compared with others. Envy is a consequence of this tendency to compare.
- Psychological game. Some people love to show off their merits, they put their value in their own desire to be admired by others. It is the profile of the vain person. That is, they seek the constant recognition of the other. But, without a doubt, in addition to admiration they can also arouse envy.
- Lack of teamwork. A group of people does not by itself constitute a team. When in a company there is an environment of individualism and rivalry against the other, while a human environment encourages its members to give their best, on the contrary, an environment marked by these emotional vampires produces the effect contrary.
- Be very far from that ideal state that one day you dreamed of reaching. Having the feeling of having been stuck at a point on your way. In that case, this frustration can also increase the risk of suffering jealousy towards those people who have achieved this goal.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
