If you notice that at the moment your partner is distant, you really feel that he has even changed his attitude towards others or only with you and you feel really confused why The fear of losing him has appeared in you and that he no longer feels the same for you, there are different reasons that must be taken into account that do not necessarily imply that your partner no longer loves.
You may be wondering how to make your partner react. Therefore, in this Psychology-Online article: what to do if my partner is distant, we are going to give you a series of tips that will undoubtedly help you to get ahead in this situation.
It is true that the fact that you have changed your attitude may be an indicator that Something is not rightHowever, several aspects must be taken into account to finally determine what is happening.
Be living a grieving process
If your partner is experiencing a grieving process right now, either because has lost a loved one, because a family member or person important to him has an illness, has lost his job, etc. it is normal for your partner to behave like this with you due to
Having passed the stage of infatuation
Taking into account that infatuation is temporary and has a time limit date, another possible reason could be that your partner has passed this stage and therefore does not act the same way with you, however although his behavior is not as effusive, so to speak, as when he was in love and now you are feeling this change. After the infatuation comes unconditional love more pure and sincere, so if your partner has entered this phase, even though you no longer feel that he is "crazy about you", you should still feel respected and loved. If your partner after falling in love feel that love ended there You may not want to take the step towards a more sincere and mature love.
Constant stress
If your partner for some time to date is quite stressed, either because he has changed jobs, They have promoted him and now he has more responsibilities, things have not gone well for him lately, etc. It may be that right now you are so stressed that you have no head for anything other than resolving your conflicts and being there all the time thinking about your worries.
Infidelity
If you notice that for some time now your partner is distant from you, he has strange behaviors that he did not before He had, from one moment to another his schedules have changed and he does not usually do the same as before, you notice that he hides something from you, etc. there is a possibility that your partner is being unfaithful to you with another person. Find out here how to know if my partner cheats on me sexually.
Relationship problems
If problems with your partner are the order of the day, they start fighting for anything, they can't avoid arguments and they do not know how to solve them so they generally leave them unfinished, it is likely that over time your partner has started to feel tired about this situation. He may think that his problems will never be solved or he does not know how he can do it so he chooses to walk away and behave in a distant way with you.
After having been clear about what is happening with your partner, there are things you can do to improve this situation that is affecting you emotionally.
- Identify what may be happening. Pay attention to the attitude of your partner but above all to the facts and what is happening around him. Also determine when he began to behave like this, if your behavior with him has also changed, among other things that can give you clues to know what is happening.
- Talk to your partner. Let your partner know how you feel right now and how the situation has made you feel since you began to notice his change in behavior. To do this you have to try to be as objective as possible, mention the events that have really happened in terms of their attitude and not simply rely on assumptions, tell him clearly and safely without getting angry or complaining, ask him for explanations about his change in attitude and establish agreements to improve the situation. Improve communication in the couple it is a fundamental step in this situation.
- Be patient and put yourself in their shoes. If you have talked to your partner about what is happening and / or you know that the reason why he is acting like this is, for example, because he has lost someone loved one or is going through a difficult situation in his life, try to understand him and put yourself in his place, support him but also give him your time and space. Stop thinking that it is something that has to do with you and obsessing over it imagining that this situation is not going to change. Be patient in the relationship and help him to overcome that difficult situation that he is going through.
Finally, if you want to know how to make your partner react, we recommend taking note of these tips:
- Are you sure it is he who has changed and not you? It may happen that without realizing it we ourselves are the ones who are changing our attitude with the partner and we come to think that it is he (she) who is doing it. So if this is your case, your partner will probably also notice you differently with her and that causes her to be behaving in a distant way or at least that you feel it.
- How long has it been like this? Keep in mind that people do not change their attitude like that because yes, this really has to take a process where gradually the person has been changing with you, in this case becoming more distant. So if, for example, a week ago everything was fine and now you notice that his attitude has changed, you will probably It is due to some recent situation such as being angry at you about something or simply has not had a good week.
- Don't adopt the same attitude. There are people who when noticing that their partner behaves in a way that affects them and hurts them, because they do not know how to handle the situation or because of pride, they begin to behave the same thinking that in this way your partner will react and change, however this is something that is negative and detrimental to the relationship. What we must do is speak honestly with her (him) and tell her how he makes us feel the change in her attitude to reach a good solution, never choose to "pay him with the same coin."
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
