If you are wondering what to do if your partner is bisexual, surely many questions come to you, and even doubts about whether you are with the right person or maybe you are afraid that at some point he or she may leave the relationship and replace you with someone else of their own sex.
It is normal to some extent that this happens to you, especially if your partner has just confessed it to you, so right now you can be feeling confused and that same confusion causes you to not be able to perceive things in another way and that you feel blocked. It is for this reason that in this Psychology-Online article: my partner is bisexual, what do I do? We are going to inform you more about the subject of bisexuality and sexual orientation to finally provide you with a series of tips that will undoubtedly help you know what to do and how to react to this situation you are in going through.
When we talk about sexual orientation we refer to the attraction we feel towards other people. This type of attraction can not only be physical or sexual but can also be emotional, romantic and affective. Sexual orientation
According to some pioneers of this type of study, such as the creators of the Kinsey sexual orientation scale, people can have different types of sexual orientation and we can classify it simply in this way:
- People who are attracted to others of the opposite sex who are considered to be straight.
- People who are attracted to others of the same sex, called homosexuals. In the case of men, they are considered gay and women are called lesbians.
- People who may be attracted to others of both sexes who are called bisexual. This type of sexual orientation can also be attracted to people with different gender identities such as transgender, intergender, non-gender men and women.
- People who do not feel any type of sexual attraction towards someone who is often referred to as asexual.
It is important to mention that many people do not feel identified by any label (bisexual, homosexual, lesbians, etc.), on the other hand, others feel more comfortable when they assign themselves a certain hashtag. Sexual orientation can remain the same throughout life but also can sometimes vary depending on who you are attracted to or with whom you are maintaining an active relationship.
Due to the lack of information that exists on these topics and in part also to the social prejudices, a number of myths about bisexuality have been created that are actually quite far from reality and that it is important for us to identify. In fact, if you wonder what to do if your partner is bisexualIt will surely be due to fears derived from these myths. Among the most frequent are the following:
- Promiscuity. It has been said that people considered bisexual are promiscuous as they are attracted to both sexes. However, there is no relationship between a person's sexual and / or emotional attraction with promiscuity.
- Confusion. It is said that bisexual people are confused and therefore are attracted to both sexes.
- They are attracted to both sexes with the same intensity. A bisexual person, just as a heterosexual would do, may be more or less attracted to one person than another. Not because they are bisexual, they will not give the same to have relationships with all people.
- More venereal diseases or STDs. It is thought that bisexual people are more likely to suffer from some of these diseases, however nothing is further from the truth since a heterosexual person may have the same possibilities as her but take the necessary precautions when carrying out the act sexual. So it does not depend on sexual orientation but on the care and precaution that the person takes, which is independent of who they have sex with.
- Infidelity. It is said that bisexual people are more unfaithful since they are attracted to both sexes, without However, this has nothing to do with it, although there are more possibilities of choice (men and women). It is more about commitment and loyalty to the person you love.
Next, I will give you some tips and recommendations that you can take into account to help you know what to do in this situation that right now has you baffled.
Stop and reflect on how you feel
This news may have been totally unexpected and you are in a state of shock right now and above all because you have never found yourself in a similar situation. However, this very fact that it has never happened to you before or that you may not be well prepared or well-informed and have certain ideas or prejudices about this topic, it is making you feel very upset and confusion.
Therefore, it is important that you stop and give yourself a space to reflect on how you feel, what are the doubts or ideas they have regarding the issue of bisexuality, what are the things that concern you the most about your partner being bisexual, etc. Try to clarify your feelings and thoughts very well before moving on to the next step which would be to talk to your partner.
Talk to your partner
Let your partner know with all sincerity and respect the way you feel at this time, what are your doubts and fears about it or what they were and that you have now resolved and try to have all these issues clarified by your partner and understood by you. For example, if because of this you have begun to question whether your partner would like to formalize the relationship more like you and you have never asked before, dare to do it and make all your doubts clear (and hers, of course). That is, not because of the fact of being bisexual they will let them have a formal relationship or not, you could also comment on this if they were heterosexual, it is always good know the expectations that are in a relationship. Find out here how to improve communication in the couple.
Votes of confidence
Remember that the fact that your partner is bisexual and has confessed it to you is a sign of the level of trust they have in you and it is an aspect that must also be valued. Think that not only because your partner is bisexual, your relationship will have less "weight" so to speak than if you were with someone heterosexual.
Faithfulness, trust and love per se, have nothing to do with sexual orientation of the person, so if your partner is showing you that he wants to be with you and that he feels comfortable in the relationship, you do not have to distrust him. The chances she has of being unfaithful or that you are unfaithful to her are the same as if your partner were heterosexual, as we saw previously, one thing has nothing to do with the other. This depends on factors such as the level of commitment, personal values, respect, among others independent of sexual orientation.
Take one decision
After giving you a space to think, having talked with your partner, that they have resolved all your doubts and have shared their ideas and expectations about your relationship, it is important that you are clear about your ideas and feelings and also make the best decision to you. Remember that the important thing is that act in coherence with yourself and that you feel comfortable and calm in whatever relationship you decide to be in.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
