The exciting flirtation situation, the butterflies in the stomach when you see her, the nerves of when you meet her, the wonderful feeling of being reciprocated... the fantastic experience of flirt! The truth is that this ritual is a whole world and not half the time it is that easy, nor do the events live up to our expectations. But do not worry, in Psychology-Online we clarify a little more How to seduce a woman or rather how to flirt with a woman so that the next times you will be less lost.
- How to seduce a woman
- How to make a woman fall in love
- How to win over a shy, difficult or distrustful woman
How to seduce a woman.
The first thing you have to do if what you are looking for is what it says in this title, is to discard the verb "to conquer" from your dating vocabulary. Women are not conquered because they are not an object capable of being possessed by anything. In addition, the use of this verb can imply that some unhealthy practices (that border on, or are directly, harassment) are legal to achieve the objective that is proposed. So, you are most likely looking for
There are many situations in which you can find one to flirt and the techniques and rules may vary in each of them. Let's first tackle one of the most common and controversial: the disco. If a girl gets your attention so much at a club that you'd like to try something, here are some tips:
- Make eye contact. Never underestimate the power of non-verbal communication in this situations. But that doesn't mean that you stare at her all the time like a psychopath.
- Smile. The smile has to be rather mischievous, otherwise you may be scared. The answer after this "play" is essential: if he makes a poker face, turns around, pretends he hasn't seen you, etc., I'm sorry, game over. She is not interested. On the other hand, if he looks back at you and smiles mischievously, it is likely that he is and you can proceed to the next step.
- Interact. Come over and ask him politely if he wants to dance or go to the bar for a drink. If you answer no, game overBut if she says yes, be nice and let her decide the distance at which she is most comfortable. Talk, laugh with her. Here you will find information about How to better communicate with a woman.
- Come closer. If the chemistry flows, in one of those silences where the sexual tension is so evident that you can even smell the hormones miles away, go for it! (if it has not been launched before). If you are a shy person, maybe you are interested how to manage shyness when interacting with women.
Remember: If she is not interested, do not hit yourself like a limpet, do not approach, do not be insistent. Because that is harassing and also you will not achieve your goal. If she's not interested: forget it, period.
How to make a woman fall in love.
Loving is one of the most beautiful things in the world. Therefore, being in love with someone who belongs to us is one of the best sensations in the universe. But when we do not know if that person feels the same as us, the nerves start, the insecurities, doubts... but also illusions, hopes... and with all the innocence we we asked How did I fall in love with her?
Fortunately or unfortunately, there is no magic formula to make a woman fall in love. It doesn't always happen and as that song by Allo Darlin ’said: "The hardest lesson we ever have to learn is when those we love don't love us back". Falling in love is a consequence, not an end, but even so, some tips that can help you to develop better when you are with that person you would like to fall in love with:
- Love yourself. Being good with yourself is essential to being good with others. In addition, by being well you project more confidence, security and establish healthier relationships. In the following article you will find How to work on self-esteem.
- Be yourself. You don't have to pretend anything, because if she falls in love, you want her to fall in love with you, not who you are not.
- Take care of the relationship. How to like a woman? Take a genuine interest in her, listen to her, congratulate her on her achievements, propose plans that please both of you, etc. Sharing pleasant moments helps to strengthen the bond and to awaken mutual positive emotions (good humor, complicity, tenderness, optimism, well-being, eroticism, fun, etc.).
- Respect it. It seems very obvious, right? Well, just in case. Because here it is not only respect as we normally know it (not making degrading comments, giving offensive opinions, etc.), but also respecting their space and her time. That means if she someday she doesn't want to meet you, for example, don't let your insecurity and frustration make her feel bad: she has every right, it is not the end of the world and it is not a definitive rejection. In addition, it may happen that later he has less desire to meet you or that you do not know if he is meeting you for pleasure or to avoid reproach.
How to conquer a shy, difficult or distrustful woman.
Flirting or falling in love with a shy, "difficult" or distrustful woman requires the same steps you have read so far. Because to flirt with her first you also have to like her, so it doesn't matter if she's shy, "difficult", or distrustful from the outset. And falling in love, as we have said, is a consequence, so the same. Although the advice is the same and the sensitivity has to be high, we can make some qualifications:
- Take initiative. If the person is shy, it is helpful if you take the initiative yourself, ask questions, care, make them laugh, etc.
- Be patient. If the person is distrustful, don't go too fast, bring up more banal conversation topics at first, talk about yourself, and as you get to know each other, the distrust will disappear.
- Do not insist. If you meet a "difficult" woman, she is simply not interested.
And remember, loving is the most beautiful thing there is, falling in love with someone the most fantastic, but in the relationship you must take care of each other and fall in love with both of you. And most importantly, as the Dalai Lama said: “The best relationship is one in which the love for each one exceeds the need for the other ".
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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