Getting involved emotionally with a person who is not looking for the same thing as you in a relationship can wear you down by giving more than you receive. What to do when a man does not want anything serious? If you find yourself living this situation, it is likely that you spend different times of the week reflecting on an issue that directly affects you. In Psychology-Online, we reflect on What to do when a man does not want anything serious.
If you find yourself in the situation of being with a man who does not want anything serious, here are 3 tips:
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Reflect on what you want. The risk of living in a situation of this type is that you focus so much on the place of the other person that you forget what you want. Because this is where the answer to the decision you must make is found. What would you say to someone who is dating a person who does not want anything serious if she does want to have a commitment? Looking at this example externally can help you get another perspective. Think about what your expectations are in this story: does being with that person bring you closer to or away from the illusion?
- Observe reality and tell yourself a story that is a true reflection of the bond between the two. For this, it is not only important that you listen to his words, but it is also essential that you attend to the plane of action. If you are in a constant state of doubt because a person tells you one thing but does the opposite, or has beautiful gestures but he constantly clarifies that he does not want anything serious, it is important that you listen to that information. Be honest with yourself.
- Do not turn this situation into a personal challenge. Observe the other person's point of view from their freedom. There are couple situations in which the feeling is not enough. This is the case, for example, when the personal project of each one or the vision of love are not compatible.
What can you do if you are with a man who does not want anything serious with you but you do want to have a stable relationship?
- Think of you. Learn to think of yourself and make decisions that help you take care of this well-being. This situation will persist over time if you postpone the moment to make a decision about it or trust that something will change in the future.
- Try be consistent with what you want to make decisions that are aligned with your point of view. The longer you stay in this situation, the more you distance yourself from the state desired by you.
- Listen to your needs. Act as the protagonist of your life at this moment in your story. Observe the pros and cons of continuing at this same point, just as you can do the exercise of listing the advantages and disadvantages of walking away. Value and take care of your well-being.
- Consider the possibility of breaking up if you are getting involved with someone who does not want anything serious but you are falling in love, because this situation it doesn't make you happy.
- Decide from what you can do. In this relationship, there are issues that do not depend on you but on the other person. Therefore, to reflect on what decision you want to make in this regard, it is also important that you can decide taking into account the comprehensive vision of this situation. You cannot change a man who does not want anything serious, if he changes it will be when he wants and because he wants. There are things that do not depend on you.
What to do when a man does not want anything serious? Find your answer and spend more time with those you trust who know you and want you to be happy. Through your conversations you can get to know yourself better by finding in this self-knowledge the space necessary to make your decision regarding this story with someone who does not want anything serious.
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This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
