"I treat my partner well every day, why am I going to surprise him?" There are not a few people who adhere to this thought, preferring to settle into the routine. However, daily tasks, stress, day-to-day obligations, tiredness, monotony, and boredom are not the best indicators of marital satisfaction. A good way to rekindle the flame in your relationship is by surprising your partner, without necessarily having a reason involved.
Surprises provide "spark", let the other person know that we have thought about them and that we care. In addition, you do not need large finances or invest all your hours in it. Many times, it is the small details that make the ordinary the extraordinary, the ones that can end up coloring a cloudy day. Can't think of ways to surprise your partner? Keep reading the following sections of this Psychology-Online article in which we offer you some ideas about how to surprise your partner, how to surprise your girlfriend, how to surprise your partner without money, how to surprise your partner on the anniversary and how to surprise your partner on a night of passion.
You want be a better couple? Surprise is an important factor. As we have commented, to surprise your partner you do not need to be a millionaire, investing large amounts of money. There are small details that make a difference. Here are some gestures that your partner will love:
- Do something for her that she doesn't know that you know that she likes her. Yes, it sounds like a tongue twister, but it's simpler than it sounds: think of something they love to do, see, or eat that you don't really understand. Give it a try, and if you don't like it, try not to complain. Look for the fun side, the important thing is to share moments together.
- Send him a message to your partner through an unconventional means, such as, for example, through traditional mail disguised as an invoice.
- Show up at their work for breakfast or lunch together.
- She prepares a picnic. It is not necessary that you spend the whole day in the kitchen, just your usual food. Grab a blanket and a couple of candles, eat out.
- Think of something meaningful from "the old days" you used to do when you started dating. Do you remember how she used to laugh when she beat you in the car race? Take it back.
- The clean car: take your car to the car wash or wash it yourself.
- Take some notes Post-it, she writes loving messages on them and starts saving them wherever your partner finds them: you will make him smile and he will think of you.
- Take her on a date and surprise her by singing one of her favorite songs. Who cares if you sing well or not? He'll be smiling the rest of the night!
- Pick it up: Meet your partner at their train, bus stop, or driveway after work with a fun airport pickup sign. You are sure to laugh!
- A postal: If you have been absent from home for work reasons or with friends, send a postcard to your partner, even if is going to come a long time after you've gotten home, to let him know that you also thought about her.
- Host a dinner at home and invite your closest people to celebrate with you for no particular reason. It could be your in-laws, your friends, or coworkers.
Celebrating your union helps nurture love in the couple. If the anniversary is a date designated by your partner, for you, or for both of you, take the opportunity to plan something special for you, that you can both enjoy:
- Surprise with tickets for some event it is something that never fails. Are you a sports fan? Music lover? Are you laughing out loud at that TV stand-up comedian? No matter what it is, surprise her with tickets to the next event.
- Book a hotel room just for both of us. Surprise her by reserving a romantic room with a view and order a bottle from room service.
- A getaway: If you have the possibility of paying for a few days of vacation for your partner and yourself, surprise her with the bills hidden in the book you're reading, or in your purse for you to discover when you're out and about. Another way to surprise her even more is for you to prepare your bags and hers, and take her directly to the place of your retreat. Of course, first make sure that he will have those days off from work. You can go to the beach, to a nearby city, to a rural house.
There are nights that we always remember because there was something about them that made them stand out from the rest. How to make an unforgettable night with someone you usually share a bed with? In Psychology-Online, we give you some ideas to surprise your partner in bed:
- Pamper her with a relaxing massage. Give her a neck, shoulder and foot massage. If you do it yourself, organize the details well: fragrances and aromatic salts, candles and relaxing music will make all the difference. You can also book in a professional center. Either way, they'll be sure to thank you!
- What is your partner's fantasy? Do everything you can to make it happen. Fulfilling a fantasy will not only help you maintain your passion but will also strengthen your bond as a couple. Role plays are often a recurring fantasy. To carry them out, it is necessary to know in advance which character will play each one, so that you can get the costumes and establish rules, so that the two of you agree on the role she will play each.
- Gifts are always welcome, and in some cases some are more fun than others. Erotic toys are a good option to avoid monotony and add an extra erotic component. In addition, they contribute to incentivize the preliminaries: massage oils, flavored lubricants, edible underwear, vibrating rings, etc.
- Erotic lingerie it is a great visual stimulus and, above all, it promotes anticipating what is under it: strategic openings, transparencies, striking colors.
In the following article, you will find more ideas for revive the passion in the couple.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
