In general, relationships can be complicated. If we add distance to the usual problems, difficulties may arise. There are several influential factors whether the long-distance relationship works or fails. For example:
- Time that the members of the couple are separated. It is not the same that the separation is for weeks, for months or for years.
- Distance between the members of the couple. The more distance there is between them, the more difficult it will be for them to see each other during the separation period.
- The foundations of the relationship. Yes the couple's relationship is healthy and it is consolidated, confidence and security will be greater so there is a greater chance of success.
- The duration of the relationship. Feelings are stronger early in the relationship, but more contact is also needed.
If you have to be separated or separated for a while, it is recommended that you know some of the problems that may arise, as well as the solutions that can help you. Here we address 4 of the most common problems and tips to solve them:
Time issues
It is possible that, between the places of residence of the members of the couple, there is a great time difference. This can make communication difficult.
- Solution: Set a schedule for making calls. One of the two may have to make an effort so that you can change the time every week.
Jealousy
Jealousy and insecurity can appear and cause some arguments. The comments from the environment about the possibility that the relationship fails or the irruption of third parties, can negatively affect.
- Solution: Maintaining daily communication can help. You don't want to jump to conclusions without asking your partner first. For example, if you have not picked up the phone or you have not answered a message. Working on the relationship can also help increase security. For example, having details, reminding our partner what we like about him or her, etc.
Here you will find everything you need to know about him why jealousy occurs in the couple and how to eliminate it.
Absence of physical contact
The impossibility of physical contact, kisses, hugs, caresses... it can be difficult to carry.
- Solution: first make the most of encounters. In addition, you can use your imagination and tell your partner what you would do if you were by their side. The more detailed the explanation, the more real it will feel. You can also apply this to sexuality.
Arguments or fights
As in normal circumstances, arguments can affect a couple's relationship, when there is distance it would not be different.
- Solution: the solution is recommended on any occasion: dialogue instead of arguing, empathy, assertiveness and active listening. In the following article you will find how to manage couple discussions via mobile.
Long distance relationships are not a dish of good taste for anyone, but they can work if the separation is temporary. For this to happen and the distance does not mean the end of the relationship, it is important to work on it.
- Take care of the relationship and communication. Dedicating time and effort is essential.
- Work together or together To solve the small difficulties that may arise, it will strengthen the relationship.
- The trust In these cases it is essential because, as we have already seen, jealousy and insecurity can arise.
- Tell your partner how you feel and to be encouraged, and vice versa.
- Talk about the future together or together to increase your motivation and make it more bearable.
- While the separation lasts, make an effort to see the other when possible it will give you the strength to continue.
- Make the most of the benefits of technology current. Don't limit yourself to messages and calls. You can have online dates (a dinner, a coffee), play games together, watch a movie at the same time while discussing it ...
Here you will find other tips for maintain a long distance relationship.
Distance can confuse us. Longing, frustration at not being by our partner's side, emotions in general can make us doubt whether our relationship is working or is breaking down. There are certain signs that your relationship is on the right track:
- You feel loved. If you feel that your partner is by your side even if it is not physically, that he loves you and supports you, your relationship is on the right track.
- You miss him / her. If you want to talk with your partner, you are looking forward to the time to talk and much more that you can see each other, that longing is a good sign.
- Thinking ahead makes you feel good. If when you imagine the end of the separation and the future together or together you smile, you feel good and you are looking forward to that moment.
It is important that you bear in mind that the distance is hard and can affect your mood. You can confuse hopelessness with disinterest, that is why communication is very important and that you talk about your feelings to avoid misunderstandings.
In summary, long distance relationships work if you work on them and the separation is temporary, because the future together or together again is the motivation to cope with the difficulties of being apart.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
