How often is it normal to SEE your PARTNER?

Many couples when starting a relationship ask themselves if they are spending enough time or if they see each other too often and that will make them lose the desire. In short, when starting and being with someone there can always be a fear behind asking if what we are doing it helps us to grow and strengthen the relationship or on the contrary it is putting out the fire slowly. In this Psychology-Online article we want to cover one of the topics that sometimes generates more doubts between couples: how much time to spend with the couple, how long can be separated and how often is it normal to see your partner.

Index

1. Is it necessary to talk to your partner every day?
2. How often is it normal to see your partner?
3. How much time is healthy to spend with your partner?

Communication is the fundamental basis Furthermore, nowadays, with the appearance of instant messaging, it is much easier to maintain a more constant communication with the couple. This fact has been a source of conflict for many couples, since if you do not talk with your partner, communication is so easy, it is because you do not want to. For this, it is necessary to previously establish how you are going to handle this whole issue of instant messaging or calls from the beginning of the relationship, to avoid possible future misunderstandings.

The most logical, with the facilities provided today, is that there is a daily communication As concise as it may be, perhaps it does not take more than a "good morning" or "have a good day", to be available to the couple if something happens and a "how's the day" at the end of it. It does not have to be a constant communication throughout the day, but a make yourself available to the couple and communicate when you have to be absent.

Every couple is a world and each one must establish when it will be seen approximately. It is important that at the beginning of the relationship you talk openly about how often you like to see your partner to see how compatible you are on this issue. It is normal that at the beginning of the relationship, with the infatuation and because you are establishing the bond, you see each other more frequently than perhaps when you have been for a while. Even so, it may happen that due to the work rhythm and its routine we find that our partner may dedicate less time to us than we would like and this is when it comes into conflict with the partner.

Is it normal that you want to see me only on weekends?

Like everything in life, the reason for this situation must be assessed:

• Perhaps it is for a matter of lack of time for his busy schedule during his day to day during the week and the feeling that if he cannot dedicate quality time to you he prefers not to see you.
• It may also be because the person gets overwhelmed quickly And he prefers to stick with his routine before you showed up and he still doesn't look ready to change it.

What to do about it? Depending on the circumstances that are leading the person to make the decision to see you only on weekends, this request is normal. Even so, if you do not agree with this meeting proposal, you must:

1. Talk to your partner Regarding the conflict that causes you to stay alone on weekends and listen to what the other person tells you about it. Explain what concerns this generates in you assertively and pay attention to the response of the other person. In this article we explain how to resolve a conflict assertively.
2. Assess the situation For which your partner proposes you to only meet on weekends, try when doing this exercise also to put yourself in their shoes and try to see how the other person is asking you for this. Once you have valued your point of view and have tried to understand his, assess whether the situation compensates you and makes you happy or this fact is too big a stone in the way.

Is it normal that you only want to see me on weekends or every 15 days?

Another thing to assess regarding the time your partner dedicates to you is if there have been changes in this, that is, before you see much more but now it seems that with the weekends it has enough and if it is every 15 days it does not happen any.

• Perhaps your partner has the feeling that everything has become too routine and need this time between you to miss you and not more.
• The work stress and if there have been changes in this that may have affected the relationship.

It is true that seeing your partner every 15 days if you live relatively close to each other is a phenomenon that each It is sometimes more due to the type of links that are established, but if it has not been given from the beginning it may be a indicator that something between you does not quite work at all and you cannot watch out for any external stimulus (family problems, times of many changes, etc.).

What to do about it? In this situation it is important to:

• Listen what your body tells you Regarding this issue, what feelings are awakened in you when you think that your partner dedicates time to you every 15 days and when you listen to their arguments about it.
• If this causes you discomfort, you must act and communicate to the other person what you feel regarding the time invested in you.
• Reach agreements. In life, balances must be found and if for you what is proposed does not help your balance, you must negotiate with your partner so that both of you can agree on the time you invest in one other.
• It is important too detect why Your partner only wants to dedicate the time that he dedicates to you and if this is an indicator that the other person is like that or there has been a general change in the attitude of the relationship. If this is the case, confront the situation and remember that sometimes it is better to let go than to hold back something that does not make us happy. In this article you will find 30 signs a relationship isn't working.

The healthiest thing that can be in a couple is the agreements. So depending on each couple, these will be one or the other. The healthy time to dedicate to someone is up to you, since there are couples who live together, so they see each other every day of the week and not for that reason we see or think that they have an obsession with each other. The healthy time to dedicate to your partner is that in which make your partner feel like a priority in your life but at the same time you have time to carry out your tasks / duties and to see your social environment, friends, family, go out for a drink with co-workers.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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