Wendy's syndrome refers to those people who focus their entire lives on the exclusive and unique care of certain people in their life. Normally, this syndrome usually occurs in women who dedicate themselves to the care of their children and their family.
In the next section of Psychology-Online, we will expose the characteristics, causes and treatment of Wendy's syndrome, from a new perspective that starts from the idea that human beings are, in their very essence, helpful and caring. The deterioration of care and dedication arising from the heart, generates the perfect breeding ground for the manifestation of this syndrome to flourish.
Index
- What is Wendy's syndrome
- Characteristics of Wendy's syndrome
- Causes of Wendy's syndrome
- Treatment of Wendy's syndrome
What is Wendy's syndrome.
Why is it called Wendy's syndrome? To understand Wendy's syndrome, we must first refer to the best known peter pan syndrome
Characteristics of Wendy's syndrome.
What are the symptoms of Wendy's syndrome? The characteristics that are manifested in people with this type of personality are the following:
- These are people who they focus their lives on caring for one or more people. It usually occurs in women They focus on taking care of their children and their partner.
- They take care to the extreme, Usurping part of the freedom that these people need to, thanks to the impulse that good care gives, move forward, grow and develop in their lives.
- They are very controlling people who do not tolerate things well beyond their control.
- By focusing their lives on this care, they feed on the benefits it brings them and they can feel lost when caring people decide to go their own way.
Causes of Wendy's syndrome.
Why does this syndrome occur? In itself, caring for others is an essential quality of the human being. In motherhood and fatherhood this quality and desire to take care of their own children is clearly manifested by offering them all the best. Although this quality occurs more frequently in mothers, it is a quality feminine present to a greater or lesser extent in all human beings, regardless of their gender.
The problem arises when this beautiful human quality is mixed with one's own personal shortcomings, generally related to a lack of self-esteem and personal worth, and we turn loving and pure care into a refuge through which to feel useful and necessary for others. The true care of our loved ones presupposes accepting that, together with the care necessary, the people cared for should be given sufficient tools to be worthy of themselves. People who suffer from Wendy's syndrome, perform an overprotective care that cancels the person and deprives him of growing and developing in a balanced way. In this article, we talk about Consequences of child overprotection.
As previously mentioned, due to factors that are currently classified as cultural but which could be analyzed to what extent they are essential to the gender itself, it is usually much more present in women, without thereby ceasing to be present in men since, as mentioned, the service and care of our neighbors is an archetypal human trait. Educational style, personality, and other individual and social factors can fuel the manifestation of this syndrome. Next, we will see how to overcome Wendy's complex.
Treatment of Wendy's syndrome.
Let's see how to overcome wendy syndrome. To talk about how to approach Wendy's complex, it should be remembered, first of all and without the pretense of enter into gender debates, that the human being in its very essence is nourished by serving and caring for the the rest. Starting from this, giving to the children or to the partner should be valued as something positive that nourishes and substantially unites the family. This includes the care of both the mother of his partner and her children as well as the care that the man in the same way gives to his family and the respect and care that the children offer to their parents.
Starting from this, the deficiency and therefore the Wendy syndrome occurs when this mutual care is unbalanced being a the only person who chooses to take care of the family, not allowing any other care that comes from any other person. In this way, even at the cost of his physical and mental health and, derived from his excessive control, of the health of the people he cares for, this person becomes dependent on this way of acting.
The treatment of this type of imbalance requires personal work with the affected person that allows them to see what part of his delivery is real, true and unconditional and, therefore, satisfactory and what other part is conditioned by unresolved internal issues that, deep down, violate the authenticity of their acts and subject it to obsessive, controlling, and limiting behaviors. The awareness of these two parts within itself and the conscious work with these aspects It will favor the withdrawal of negative aspects and their substitution by actions of personal care and listening and, with it, the delivery of true and unconditional love. For this awareness, a psychotherapy process with a qualified professional is recommended.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography
- Egea, M. TO. (2009). Growing up? Never again. Peter Pan and Wendy: Two Adolescent Behavior Patterns. The Viceroy's tower, (6, 2009/1), 105-113.
