7 types of emotional vampire

Have you ever met someone and then you feel a sense of exhaustion, a sudden change in mood, negative thoughts that bother you? If you felt it, you probably met an emotional vampire. The emotional vampire feeds on you and, step by step, tends, with even subtle artifices, to subjugate you to the point of annihilating you in order to survive.

Emotional vampires are everywhere, in the office, in the malls, in the gym, at home. It can be anyone and hide under many clothes. In addition, they can take on the roles of friends and family. In this Psychology-Online article we will discover together how to recognize an emotional vampire.

Index

1. What is an emotional vampire
2. the top
3. the catastrophic
4. the envious
5. The gossiper
6. the irascible
7. The controller
8. the freeloader
9. the moralist
10. the talker
11. the hypochondriac
12. The victim
13. the narcissist
14. The king or queen of dramas

Clinical vampirism is rarely described and when this happens

Emotional vampires, however, are not always aware of their role and are often not bad people. Although this category of people has "different disguises", here are some of key traits that identify them:

• They make you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or even depressed.
• They have strong narcissistic tendencies and a constant hunger for admiration and attention.
• They tend to blame others for feeling superior.
• They display rapid and disconcerting mood swings.
• They are not able to face the challenges of life in a constructive way, but try to pass themselves off in the eyes of others as victims of adverse fate.

The vampire looks like a normal person, but little by little, after gaining sympathy for him, he will start to suck all the emotional energies out of him. Therefore, this type of emotional vampire feels superior to everyone and enjoy making others feel inferior, trying to subdue others and then feed on their attentions.

As you can imagine, emotional vampires invade our freedom without limits and that They are convinced that all the rest of humanity has been created to satisfy their needs. needs. In this case, the catastrophic emotional vampire is negative and surrounded by misfortunes, their goal is to attract the attention and energy of others to fill their own faults, leaving them empty and without energy.

Emotional vampires, female or male, are so named because they have a tendency to drain the emotional energies of everyone they come into contact with. In his case, the emotional vampire jealous belittles and despise others, and at the same time he tries to attract around him people to manipulate and subjugate, in order to collect confirmation and devotion.

Look at others so as not to look inside yourself. Capture the attention of others with gossip that insinuate doubts and uncertainties. On the other hand, the gossiping emotional vampire will take care of spread false rumors to negatively affect the environment or even to manipulate the group in favor of its objectives.

He sows anger around him and attracts people, leading them to share his bad mood, made of anger and complaints, creating an atmosphere of anger and dissatisfaction. How to recognize an emotional vampire irascible? You should pay attention to their general mood: these types of people are always furious, they are addicted to this emotion and, above all, they love to let off steam with others.

Affected by the mania for control, both of himself and of others: he does not trust anyone. This people they try to control everyone obsessively and tell them how they should be and what they should feel. They have an opinion about everything. His mode of control is to override the emotions of others when they don't fit his rulebook.

They often begin their sentences with "Do you know what you would need?" and then, of course, they tell you. In the end, you will feel dominated, devalued and inferior.

If you have a controlling emotional vampire in your environment, we recommend you consult our post Characteristics of controlling people and how to deal with them.

The next type of emotional vampire is the freeloader. These people usually act in a completely condescending way. Your best weapon is passivity because what it does is subtly appropriate other people's ideas and merits.

If you want to know how to recognize a moralistic emotional vampire, you should know that this type of individual uses the blackmail and moral judgment, thanks to which gives life to a group of followers that they can always offer attention and confirmation to their work.

For a long time he captures the attention of his victims, who hardly find space in the conversation. Vent your frustration on others, stealing all the energy. These people don't care how they feel. They are only interested in themselves.

You will wait in vain for a moment of pause in their chatter to introduce a word of yours, that moment will never come. Or they will talk to you so close that they will literally take your breath away. You go back and they keep going.

What does it mean to be a hypochondriac emotional vampire? Pay attention to their victim attitude. These types of people, in order to ensure the care and attention of others, who otherwise would not know how to make a living, appeals to feelings of worry Y compassion.

These vampires "stick" with their "poor me" attitude. The world is full of them. This is the reason for your unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems, the typical phrase will be "Yes, but...". Sooner or later exhausted you will end up screening calls or avoiding them on purpose. Like friends who may want to help you, but will be overwhelmed by stories of your problems.

His motto is "me first". It's all about them. They have a great sense of their importance and worth, commanding attention and asking for admiration. They are dangerous because they lack empathy and they have limited capacities for unconditional love. If you don't do things the way they want, they become punitive, cold and indifferent.

If you want to know more about this type of emotional vampire, read our post what is it to be narcissistic

These people have a special talent for turn the most banal incident into a tragedy. A simple cold becomes a risk of sudden pneumonia, they are late because there has been a fatal accident that the news will speak, every day there is a disaster that affects you and they will vent on you with an emotional charge devastating. You will feel exhausted by listening to their existential dramas.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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