Dealing with negative people is not an easy task, since they are people who, due to conditioning of their past, present a more or less intense verbiage based on a negative and catastrophic vision of the lifetime. Staying for a long time next to these people, without realizing that we must adopt certain tools that protect from the negativity they present, it can end up dragging us into these pits of darkness, disappointment and mistrust.
In this Psychology-Online article, we will tell you how to deal with negative people in a way that we create a shield against this negativity and, in a way, we can help these types of people to get out of this sphere of darkness that surrounds them.
Index
- Cheer as much as possible
- Offers a positive outlook on life
- Understand that it is a shell and not the people themselves
- Respect without getting carried away by negativity
- Offer active and empathetic listening
- Try to make him aware of his circles of negativity
- Help him refute his negative vision with your own experience
- Help him enhance his positive skills
- Believe beyond the negativity
- Keep inner peace to pass it on
Cheer as much as possible.
What to do with negative people? pass them on happiness, as it combats all negativity and, in itself, contains vital compounds that eliminate all kinds of negative elements. It is a calm and sober joy (not euphoric) that radiates a force that encourages trust in life and spreads such joy and peace.
Offers a positive outlook on life.
When dealing with negative people, you should not adopt an attitude of opposition to any negative element they transmit. Actually, it is about having a serene attitude capable of convey the true strength that lies behind every detail of the life.
This aspect is closely linked to the joy mentioned in the previous section. To offer a positive vision of life that really captivates our interlocutor, our hearts must remain cheerful. In this way, without any effort and in a natural way, we will transmit to our partner a confident and positive vision of life.
Understand that it is a shell and not the people themselves.
How do you avoid being affected by negative people? It is essential to understand that negativity is not something intrinsic to the person. In origin, every human being is pure, joyful and confident. This negative way of life that is shown in each behavior is a defense mechanism created in the past as a result of living certain unpleasant experiences. Approaching this situation in this way will give us a shield against the force of negativity.
Respect without letting yourself be dragged down by negativity.
It is important don't judge negative people, understanding that they act controlled by irrational defense mechanisms. Therefore, we must make an effort to respect them as whole and complete people, without this meaning allowing ourselves to be dragged down by the negativity that arises from them. In this article, we tell you how not to judge others.
Offer active and empathetic listening.
In most cases, negative people need comfort to calm and soothe their wounds. offer them a active listening and empathetic can help them untie emotional ailments that, being quiet and unconscious, lead them to these negative inertias.
Faced with constant negative attitudes, it is important to know how to discern between what is really good for that person to express because it will calm your soul and the mechanized negativity speech that, as a vicious circle, feeds more the negativity of the person.
Try to make him aware of his circles of negativity.
If the relationship with the negative person is close and continuous, it is very beneficial for her to try to make her aware of these circles of negativity that surround her and that see all the negative consequences that this way of acting brings with it.
Help him refute his negative view with your own experience.
What to do with negative people? If you have started this process of accompaniment in becoming aware of this mechanism of negativity, you can take a step more trying to disprove specific aspects of his negative vision with non-rational life experiences that allow contrast it.
It is much more effective Contrast it with real events that the person himself can experience, because personal experience establishes any type of learning in a much more effective and intense way.
Help him enhance his positive skills.
When dealing with negative people, when you have already shared your experiences to contrast their negative view of life, you can help them enhance their positive skills and abilities. Are will give you new strength, joy and motivation before a possible new path. In this sense, we recommend you read this article on the skills of a person: list and examples.
Believe beyond the negativity.
As we mentioned at the beginning of the article, to treat negative people it is essential that we believe in them. First of all, you have to see the person who is really behind all the negativity shown. This supposes a act of love and trust that favors detachment of the person by negative magnets.
Maintain inner peace to pass it on.
Maintaining inner peace will help us to remain in this respectful and real vision of the person with whom we are relating, beyond the negative behavior that manifests. our peace will radiate calm in your own heart and that will allow you to recover your true vital force, absorbed by negativity, and take new steps away from such a stormy way of life.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography
- Vásquez, J., Feria, M., Palacios, L., & De la Peña, F. (2010). Clinical guideline for oppositional defiant disorder. Mexico: Ramón de la Fente Muñiz National Institute of Psychiatry.(Series: Clinical guidelines for care in mental disorders).
