Throughout your life story you will meet different people. With some of them you will have a higher level of affinity, while with others you may have the feeling of being immersed in a permanent internal conflict in the face of a situation that always seems to be pending solve. It may happen that you do not feel comfortable with people who have a pattern of behavior that disappoints you on a recurring basis. With toxic people, you have the feeling of not fully understanding what is happening.
In this Psychology-Online article, we list 10 types of toxic people that you should avoid in your life and their characteristics so that you can identify them.
Index
- arrogant toxic people
- critical toxic people
- Toxic people who compare
- Toxic people who hold you responsible for their situation
- envious toxic people
- Concerned Toxic People
- Toxic people who make you choose
- lying toxic people
- authoritarian toxic people
- Manipulative Toxic People
Arrogant toxic people.
a superb person is positioned before the other from an expectation of superiority that breaks with the balance of relationships. The person does not grant the same level of importance to the other within that bond in which they place expectations of praise and frequent recognition.
The ego of this type of toxic person fills up so much space in this interpersonal context that he doesn't let the relationship flow, because the other has a hard time finding his voice in this friendship.
Critical toxic people.
Another type of toxic people includes those who constantly criticize others. For example, these types of toxic people when they are with you make negative assessments of other people from the group of friends. What you frequently observe in his way of relating to others also makes you wonder if he will not do something similar with you when you are not present in the group plans.
That is to say, he is a person who reflects a constant lack of transparency between what he shows when he is in front of others and what he thinks in the absence of it.
Toxic people who compare.
In the case of toxic people who they compare you to others it is likely that you feel that this person does not value you as you are, but rather sends you messages of constant comparison with others. These comparisons are not an anecdote, but frequent actions within this relationship.
In other words, it is likely that you feel that through this reference to someone outside you do not appreciate your own light.
Toxic people who hold you responsible for their situation.
There are toxic people who make you feel responsible for their situation. You can offer support to another person, but in no case can you assume for them powers that correspond to them in the first person. However, perhaps you have known someone who frequently put this weight on you that each time becomes a heavier burden for you.
This type of toxic person makes you feel responsible for their situation, especially when circumstances do not meet their expectations, at which point they demand a lot of your time and attention. It asks you for a level of commitment in which it is positioned in the expectation of receiving. This type of bond may be conditioned by a situation of dependency, such as codependency in the relationship with a partner.
Envious toxic people.
Your repeated experience around those situations that have aroused their jealousy and envy may cause you to avoid touch on certain topics of conversation and show your joy for certain objectives because their response is the manifestation of someone who is not happy with what happens to you.
However, envious toxic people do not explicitly acknowledge their envy, but their messages are disguised in the form of irony or comments that are not based on empathy.
Interested toxic people.
Every human being is unique. However, he feels treated as a means when he is the victim of an instrumental relationship in which he has deposited expectations that break his illusions. For example, when a person only meets another when he doesn't have other people to make a plan with, it can make him feel this way.
It also happens when someone makes plans that they usually cancel at the last moment without taking into account the time and feelings of the other.
Toxic people who make you choose.
A toxic person can condition your decision-making capacity through emotional blackmail when it puts you in the position of having to choose between maintaining the bond with her or a bond with the others. For example, if a discussion occurs in a group of friends, that person may interpret that supporting her means positioning yourself in the conflict by distancing yourself from others.
In this way, when you find yourself in this situation, you feel that you have to give up other friendships to respond from their vision of loyalty. The fact of positioning yourself in the situation of having to choose can also be transferred to the case of put their interests before your leisure preferences when there is no coincidence between the desires of both.
Lying toxic people.
There are toxic people who constantly lie. There are so many occasions in which you have felt the victim of a deception that you question issues that are part of your conversations due to this previous reference to experience. Here you will find How to detect a liar.
Probably, the lies of this type of person will have fueled your distrust and produced an emotional distance between the two, even when being close to that person. This lack of sincerity that is at the base of the relationship affects the very essence of this story.
Authoritarian toxic people.
There are toxic people with little self-criticism but who they are too demanding of others. While with you he manifests a high level of demand, on the contrary, his level of self-reflection is low. For example, although he apologizes to you after a certain behavior, he soon repeats the same gesture in a different situation.
Often, they justify their behavior with the statement: "I am like that." A message that shows the point of view of someone in this position is "I can not or do not want to change."
Manipulative toxic people.
There are toxic people who manipulate, people who do not offer their appreciation unconditionally, but expect something concrete in return. That is to say, behind an apparently disinterested gesture there is, in reality, a favor that at some point will become manifest for make the other feel indebted for that previous effort.
The relationship does not flow to the beat of the present since yesterday constantly interferes with the rhythm of now. A statement that can describe the position of someone who is in this position would be "with everything I have done for you." In the following article we explain How to beat a manipulator.
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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