Overcoming emotional infidelity is not easy because it means starting from scratch in regards to the socio-emotional facet. The person, who until then shared a relationship, must continue on his way with or without that person but, above all, integrating this unpleasant experience as one more part of their life of her The most common in these cases is to accept defensive mechanisms such as denial, resentment, quickly hiding the problem and the pain generated by looking for another partner, etc. However, what is recommended and with which better results are achieved, but precisely because of its depth of elaboration of the experience, the The most difficult path is to constructively re-elaborate said experience in such a way that it allows us to grow and develop as better people.
In the following Psychology-Online article we will explain how to overcome an emotional infidelity.
Index
- What is an emotional infidelity
- Emotional signs of infidelity
- Causes of emotional infidelity
- How to deal with emotional infidelity
What is an emotional infidelity.
An emotional infidelity is an infidelity carried out by one of the two members of a couple with a third person without having had any kind of sexual relationship. In other words, emotional infidelity occurs when one of the two members of the couple initiates a consciously or unconsciously emotional closeness to another person oblivious to her partner and begins to establish a parallel relationship with her.
Some examples of emotional infidelity include behaviors that involve an intimate approach to a person who is not the partner. For example, flirting and flirting continuously and repeatedly over time, making secret dates, leading a double life, etc.
Emotional signs of infidelity.
The following behaviors carried out by the unfaithful person constitute some of the signs that most reveal emotional infidelity:
- Little interest, affection and romanticism towards the current partner.
- Behavioral and verbal inconsistencies that make your partner suspect that something strange is happening to you.
- Lack of motivation and joy in shared moments with current partner.
- Increasing avoidance of shared times and experiences.
- Continued lies more or less visible.
- Frequency variation in sexual intercourse.
- Dedication of excessive time to mobile or other technologies and the use of social networks.
The person who commits an emotional infidelity can be discovered by committing one or several of these behaviors continuously and repeatedly. Being aware of these details can help the couple to bring to light a situation that they are suspecting exists. However, if you don't have any firm suspicions about possible deception, these signs may lead us to elaborate a fiction about a possible infidelity in our head that in reality does not exists. Here you will find more information about How to discover an infidelity.
Causes of emotional infidelity.
The causes that originate an emotional infidelity will, of course, be concrete and particular in each case. However, all of them could have in common some of the following more general aspects:
- Previous experience of infidelity by the same member of the couple.
- desire for revenge in front of a past infidelity suffered.
- Vital demotivation and need for new experiences.
- Third person real crush.
- Addiction to technology and cybersex.
Either because of the impulsive personality and in a permanent state of dissatisfaction of the person who commits the infidelity or because the couple themselves is going through some more or less visible crisis that, together with the current ease of creating parallel realities through new technologies, the Emotional infidelity becomes a very accessible alternative to satisfy personal needs in a very self-centered, disrespectful way. and little mature.
How to deal with emotional infidelity.
Coping with emotional infidelity will entail accept the infidelity suffered, traffic and overcoming pain and disappointment, the internal staff reworking about who you have been, who you are now and who you want to become and the realization of the necessary resources to start and travel the new path.
Like all types of emotional overcoming, facing emotional infidelity is a process that involves going through different phases through which the person accepts the situation, elaborating it internally and integrating it to, finally, issue a response of positive resolution that allows you to resume your life path with inner strength renewed.
For this process of overcoming emotional infidelity to be completely closed, it will be necessary accept the situation and consider forgiving to our partner, although that does not mean that we have to return to him/her. Whether the couple resumes their journey together or separately will depend on multiple particular factors of each couple, but the Forgiveness is necessary in order to be able to let go of this pain and continue on with one's path of life with new energy and strength. renewed. In relation to this, you may be interested in reading Can infidelity be forgiven?
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography
- AND. Perez, M. (2020). "Emotional infidelity. The love deceit that does not involve sex. Editorial Ibukku
