Suspecting the worst in your partner, wanting to control everything he does, always being on top of his steps and even invade your privacy, are just some of the clearest and most worrying signs of unhealthy jealousy in a relationship. Jealousy is sometimes not so evident and varies in its intensity, even, on occasions, it can favor certain aspects of relationships, as long as people are able to express their feelings in a assertive What is a fact is that jealous people tend to be insecure and have very low self-esteem, so Jealousy has nothing to do with what the couple does, but with the fears and insecurities of the person jealous.
So that you learn to identify the situation, in this Psychology-online article you will see what are the traits of a jealous person.
Index
- does not tolerate
- Demands that you spend all your time with him/her
- always suspect the worst
- Wants to control how you act
- resort to emotional blackmail
- Does not respect your decisions
- mistrust everyone
- is emotionally dependent
- is not respectful to you
- Try to change your image
Does not tolerate
First of all, jealous people they do not allow their partner to share moments with another person, such as an outing, a meal, a party or some kind of meeting with other people because they see it as a possible threat. It is clear that this will cause tension in any type of relationship since the possibility of each member of the couple having their own space is cut off.
In the long run, these reproaches for spending time with other people will end up driving couples away.
Demands that you spend all your time with him/her.
Demanding to spend more time with your partner may seem romantic on the surface, however, in some extreme situations it can be a problem and overwhelm the other person. In fact, want your partner's time to be just for you, actually it is a clear trait that you are a jealous person.
Although it is usual that, especially at the beginning of a relationship, we want to be with the person all the time we want, we must know how to differentiate when it is an obsessive attitude and when it is part of the infatuation. Trying to isolate the couple from the rest of the people is not healthy and causes discomfort. Therefore, love implies commitment, but not the obligation to always be together, everywhere and without the right to choose with whom you want to share certain aspects of your life.
He always suspects the worst.
Another trait of jealous people is that they do not tolerate the slightest behavior that deviates from their expectations. For example, a call, a message, an outing or even arriving later than usual from work becomes a reason for conflict and jealousy.
You need to be interested in your partner's activities, but if you are always suspecting infidelity and moving away, we cannot be talking about true love.
He wants to control how you act.
One of the sickest traits of jealousy is that you will always try to exercise total control over your partner to act and do only what you want and approve. You will even justify that position because you think it is the best for that person, without realizing that the most precious thing for everyone is having the freedom to be who they really are.
He resorts to emotional blackmail.
Jealous people are manipulative and will try exercise emotional blackmailwhenever they feel threatened. For example, if you plan to go out with your friends or friends, it is most likely that they will create a drama so that you feel bad and end up staying where the jealous person wants you to.
In this article we explain How to deal with a manipulative partner.
He doesn't respect your decisions.
Another trait of jealous people is that they tend to devalue your partner's opinions They don't respect their positions. Therefore, they tend to humiliate and even scold because they believe they have the authority to do so.
Distrust everyone.
jealous people they distrust even the closest relatives of your partner. Inside their head, everyone wants to take their partner away from them, so they avoid at all costs for that person to relate to anyone other than himself or herself.
A look, a gesture or even a greeting, can trigger a whole conflict because your subconscious is already prepared to react defensively.
He is emotionally dependent.
Jealousy is the product of a deep inner insecurity, therefore, those who are jealous are often emotionally dependent and they find it difficult to fend for themselves. Also, it is common for them to develop an excessive attachment, so they believe that without their partner they will no longer have a reason to move on.
It's not respectful to you.
On the other hand, respect for the independence of others and even for the actions of the couple is not the strong point of jealous people, since They tend to be rude and even violent. to intimidate your partner. In addition, they live in a constant purpose of alienating the people around them from their partner so that they only have time to be by their side.
Try to change your image.
People who are excessively jealous pthey want their partner to dress and groom themselves as they want. In addition, they not only aim to change the image of your partner, but also the taste, habits and even the opinions of the partner so that they always align with their own thinking. This translates into a total lack of freedom and in extreme cases even harassment towards the free thought and tastes of the couple.
In the following article you will find information about How to overcome unhealthy jealousy in the couple.
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- González Monclús, E. (2005). Jealousy, pathological jealousy and delusional jealousy. Rev. psychiatrist Fac. Med. boat, 14-22.
