For Ana M. Bastida of Miguel. March 15, 2018
An essential value for both children and adults.
Self-esteem is fundamental for our personal development. Self-esteem is loving yourself and loving others. It means knowing that we are valuable, that we are worth it, that we are capable, and not only know it but affirm it, believe it and act according to that belief. It involves respecting ourselves and teaching others to do so.
Self-esteem is a very important aspect of our personality. At PsicologíaOnline we want to show, through this article, the importance of self-esteem and how to enhance it. This is something fundamental to develop our identity as a human being and essential for a good social adaptation.
The degree to which people have positive or negative feelings about themselves and its own value will be decisive when it comes to feeling comfortable with ourselves and with others.
Self-esteem, is the concept that we have of our worth and it is formed based on all the thoughts, feelings, sensations and experiences that we incorporate about ourselves throughout our lifetime. All the impressions, evaluations and experiences that we are experiencing accumulate and form a positive feeling towards ourselves or, on the contrary, an uncomfortable negative feeling for not being what we would like to be.
Self-esteem is, therefore, the valuation that each person makes of himself. And the value that each person gives to himself is going to be of vital importance both for his own personal well-being and for interpersonal relationships.
An unrealistic and negative judgment Of oneself can cause many disappointments and a lot of damage and the only thing that it can lead us is to maintain a low and lack of optimism spirit.
We feel ready or stupid, capable or incapable, we like ourselves or not depending on what we have been learning throughout our development. This self-assessment is very important, since the realization of our personal potential and our achievements in life depends largely on it.
People who feel good about themselves, who have good self-esteem, are capable of facing and solving the challenges and responsibilities that life poses to us. On the contrary, those with low self-esteem tend to limit themselves, feel that they are not worth enough and, as a result, fail.
Self-esteem is built with the experience of each one and it is what allows us to value the self-concept that influences what we say to ourselves and what is known as the "self-talk" the "self-messages" the "self-instructions".
People with low self-esteem tend to maintain negative self-talk about themselves, they rate his actions below normal and unrealistically "I can not" "I am not worth" "I do very evil"...
You have to pay close attention both to the statements that each person makes about themselves and to the actions that they carry out, because based on all this we will be able to identify those who have a negative perspective regarding their self-concept and act in consequence.
The image that a person has of himself ranges from his physical appearance to their knowledge, their attitudes, their beliefs, their potentials, their abilities, her ability to relate and to solve problems ...
If we manage to value our own qualities, without paying too much attention to personal defects, we can improve the way we deal with both favorable and unfavorable situations.
Furthermore, if we manage to change communication with ourselves and with others so that no one is harmed, we will all benefit.
A person who is not satisfied with himself will not be able to face life with decision and optimism necessary, which will lead to a lack of trust not only in their environment but also in all areas of The life of her.
My self-worth is influenced by my experiences, for me personal history but above all for the assessment that both I and the people, who have been and are, important in my life make me.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
