Living with a narcissist is never easy. Their disorder makes them feel special and they need continued flattery and approval. If we risk making any criticism or expressing a need or desire that contravenes yours, we will earn their grudge immediately and will channel his anger toward us, making us guilty of his discomfort.
If the disorder suffered by the narcissist is very deep, the relationship with these types of people can be very destructive, so it is best to keep your distances. However, this is very difficult when the narcissist is one of our parents, our partner or a co-worker. In this case it is necessary follow behavioral guidelines that allow us to maintain the relationship without getting hurt in the process.
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- Distance yourself on an emotional level
- Do not show your feelings
- Don't try to change it
Distance yourself on an emotional level.
It is necessary distancing yourself emotionally, so that in this way what he tells us does not affect us. In her attempt to maintain his superior status, his words can be very humiliating and hurtful, and he can become very insensitive. Therefore, do not assume what he says about you as a reality, but as a product of his illness.
Don't show your feelings to him.
The narcissist does not care if you are depressed or tired, and if you try to tell he will ignore you and surely you will be hurt by the indifference that he shows towards you, because the narcissist only cares how he feels himself. Talk in passing about how you feel and change the subject and confide your problems to someone who is more receptive.
Don't try to change it.
Do not try to change it, because this will lead to very complicated situations. The best is that change yourself, trying not to affect their behavior. Think that it is not expressly against you, but that it behaves the same with every human being who is not himself and do not waste energy on an impossible. In this way coexistence will be easier.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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