What direction do you want your life to take?
Every step we take along the way is aimed at pursuing a vital goal. Whether they are small decisions how to choose the clothes to wear or what to eat, the choices in life are part of our daily lives. However, there are times when a decision can lead to an unexpected turn of the events, radical changes are difficult to assume and it is very important to be sure of what let's do.
Start dating a person, change your home or job, get married... if you are not sure which way to go, in this article on Psychology-Online, we will help you with this article, in it we will give you the best tips to know how to make difficult decisions in life.
If there is something that costs us a lot as human beings, it is to make a difficult decision. These tend to generate a lot of fear and anxiety and are associated with leaving something behind. Whether it's quitting a job, leaving a partner, or moving, tough decisions can become very necessary. There are many examples of difficult decisions, however, most have a very similar psychological process, this is based on the interaction of the
What to do when you don't know what decision to make
If we don't know what to do in a compromising situation, we can do the following exercise:
- Think about how you want your life to be in 24 hoursHow would you be happier?
- Now repeat the same exercise but you must visualize yourself in 2 months, half a year... and so on.
- Do you see yourself in two months with the same job, partner or flat? What do you want to do about it?
It is not necessary to establish long-term objectives because they may not be met, doing this exercise up to a period of one year is enough. Now that we know how we would like to live, it is time to arm ourselves with courage and communicate our decision to our environment and to the people affected.
This may be the most complicated step, however, if we are clear about the way forward, we must remain firm and faithful to our decision.
We are living in a small apartment, without a terrace and paying cheap rent. We consider the possibility of moving to a slightly more expensive apartment but we are afraid that it is not the most appropriate decision.
- "Do I want to continue living in this apartment in two months?"
- "What can I do about it? Do I have the tools to change? "
- In the event that you have any impediment (personal, financial, you do not have time to look at new floors ...) "Can I get over it and continue to pursue my goal?"
- "Do I look happier if I imagine myself living somewhere else?"
Once we are clear about what we want to do, we just need to arm ourselves with courage and take the big step.
Making a love decision can be complicated and generate a lot of emotional stress. Personal relationships are one of the challenges that humans face most often but with the most difficulty. When there are feelings involved, it is difficult to decide what is best for us psychological well-being.
Make a sentimental decision
These types of paths are usually of two very different natures: or we want to take the step and declare our love or we want break a relationship.
- If the first case occurs, it is normal that we feel fear and insecurities. Being rejected by someone can be a very hard blow. For this type of occasion we can ask ourselves the following question: "What if I don't tell him what I feel"If we want to take the big step, we have to leave fear behind and be brave in love.
- Otherwise, we may not know how to tell our partner that we want to separate. This can be for different reasons but when that feeling flourishes we must make the wisest decision to avoid hurting the other person and ourselves.
Sometimes, the problem does not lie in making decisions but in not knowing how to pursue our emotional and personal goals. Choosing the best path is not always easy, so we want to give you the best advice from the practice of positive psychology.
How to know if you are on the right track
The theory of Seligman's positive psychology states that there are three types of happiness:
- Pleasant life: based on hedonism and the search for pleasant sensations
- The life of commitment: this type of path projects us to a state of balance between responsibilities and well-being personal, is based on discovering our virtues and strengths and using them to take on challenges interpersonal.
- Meaningful life: of spiritual leaders and activists, it is about focusing all our efforts on fighting for a cause greater than our own individuality.
Each of these directions is aimed at pursuing some kind of vital happiness. However, according to Seligman himself, the life of commitment is one that gives us the key to emotional well-being.
What kind of path do you want to follow?
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
