Throughout your life history you will meet different people. With some of them you will have a higher level of affinity, while with others you can have the feeling of be immersed in a permanent internal conflict in the face of a situation that always seems to be pending sort out. It may happen that you do not feel comfortable with people who have some behavior pattern that repeatedly disappoints you. With toxic people, you have the feeling of not fully understanding what is happening. In Psychology-Online, we list 10 types of toxic people that you should avoid in your life and its characteristics so that you can identify them.
Index
- Superb toxic people
- Critical toxic people
- Toxic people comparing
- Toxic people who hold you responsible for their situation
- Envious toxic people
- Interested toxic people
- Toxic people that make you choose
- Lying toxic people
- Authoritarian toxic people
- Manipulative toxic people
1. Superb toxic people.
A proud person stands before the other from an expectation of superiority
2. Critical toxic people.
There are toxic people who constantly criticize others. That toxic person when he's with you make negative evaluations about other people of the group of friends. This fact that you frequently observe in their way of relating to others also makes that you wonder if he will not do something similar with you when you are not present in the plans of the group. In other words, he is a person who reflects a constant lack of transparency between what he shows when he is in front of others and what he thinks in their absence.
3. Toxic people comparing.
That toxic person that compares you with others. You feel that that person does not value you as you are, but rather sends you messages of constant comparison with others. Comparisons that are not an anecdote but frequent actions within this relationship. You feel that through this reference to someone outside does not appreciate your own light.
4. Toxic people who hold you responsible for their situation.
There are toxic people who make you feel responsible for their situation. You can offer support to another person, but in no case can you assume powers that correspond to him in the first person. However, you may have met someone who frequently deposit this weight on you that every time it becomes a heavier burden for you. This type of toxic person makes you feel responsible for their situation, especially when circumstances do not meet their expectations, at which time they demand a lot of time and attention. It asks you for a level of commitment in which it is positioned to expect to receive. This type of link may be conditioned by a situation of dependency, such as codependency in the couple relationship.
5. Envious toxic people.
Your repeated experience around those situations that have aroused their jealousy and envy may cause you to avoid bring up certain topics of conversation and show your joy for certain goals because their response is the manifestation of someone who is not happy with what happens to you. However, envious toxic people do not explicitly acknowledge their envy but rather their messages are disguised in the form of irony or comments that are not based on empathy.
6. Interested toxic people.
Every human being is unique. Yet it feels treated as a medium when he is the victim of an instrumental relationship in which he has placed expectations that break his illusions. For example, when a person only meets another when he does not have more people with whom to make a plan, it can make him feel this way. It also happens when someone makes plans that they habitually cancel at the last minute without taking into account the time and feelings of the other.
7. Toxic people who make you choose.
A toxic person can condition your decision-making capacity through emotional blackmail when it puts you in the position of having to choose between maintaining a bond with her or a bond with others. For example, if there is an argument in the group of friends, that person may interpret that supporting them means positioning yourself in the conflict by distancing yourself from others. In this way, when you find yourself in this situation, you feel that you have to give up other friendships to respond from their vision of loyalty. The fact of positioning yourself in the situation of having to choose can also be transferred to the case of put their interests before your leisure preferences when there is no coincidence between the wishes of both of them.
8. Lying toxic people.
There are toxic people who constantly lie. Here you can see the psychological profile of a liar person. With lying toxic people, there are so many times when you have felt the victim of a deception that you question questions that are part of your conversations by this previous reference to the experience. Lies that have fueled your mistrust and that produce an emotional distance between the two even when you are close to that person. This insincerity that is at the base of the relationship affects the very essence of this story.
9. Authoritarian toxic people.
There are toxic people with little self-criticism but who are too demanding of others. While with you he manifests a high level of demand, on the contrary, his level of reflection about himself is low. For example, although he apologizes to you after a certain behavior, he soon repeats the same gesture in a different situation. He often justifies his behavior with the statement: "I am like this.". A message that shows the point of view of who is in this position: "I can not or do not want to change."
10. Manipulative toxic people.
There are toxic people who manipulate, people who do not offer their appreciation unconditionally, but expect something concrete in return. That is to say, behind an apparently disinterested gesture there is, in reality, a favor that at some point will be revealed for make the other feel in debt for that prior effort. The relationship does not flow to the beat of the present since yesterday interferes with the rhythm of now constantly. A statement that can describe the posture of someone in this position is: "with all that I have done for you."
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography
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- Gaffoglio, L. (2008). How to recognize toxic people. The nation.
- Stamateas, B. (2014). More toxic people. B OF BOOKS.
