exist people who want to control everything Even the smallest detail. Not only the material environment, but also people. There are different ways to control personal relationships: for example, coercion, manipulation, fear, blackmail emotional, constant negative criticism... Obviously, these are forms of control that are negative and harmful to one's self-esteem and alien.
However, behind the apparent sense of strength that exists in a person who is always in control of everything, in reality, there is great weakness and vulnerability in fear of letting life flow naturally. In fact, the true key to happiness lies in living to the beat of life and not in pretending to control the uncontrollable.
The controller fears that things will get out of hand and out of his power. Therefore, he has so little capacity for improvisation and spontaneity. But also, under the role of being in control of everything, he lives as if others depended on him. In reality, every human being is responsible for himself and his actions. However, freedom is an essential quality in interpersonal relationships.
When the human being tries to control the uncontrollable, then, he falls victim to a process that is not natural. Of course, it is important to control things to the extent and in the right balance. For example, from an emotional point of view, learn to control your own emotions It implies knowing how to control feelings.
The human being, in general, has more difficulty controlling a fit of anger. However, quality of life is gained when you learn to take a break and learn to think before acting under the influence of an unpleasant emotion such as anger. What do you think is behind the need to control everything?
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