Often times, we meet people who turn everything into a competition to prove who is the best. Whether in our own family environment, usually between siblings, friendship or, more commonly, in our work, that competitiveness leads them to constantly fight to keep all the merit of any project and be above the the rest.
According to experts, very competitive people They tend to have a fragile self-esteem, which leads them to constantly compare themselves with others to make sure that they are doing well or that they are superior to others. Although a certain degree of competitiveness is always positive, but if we take it to the extreme, we can end up inside ourselves from an endless spiral of competition, stressed and anxious, or feeling inferior or worthless for not acting the same mode. So that this does not happen to us, it is advisable to know how to treat these types of people.
It is important do not customize, knowing that their behavior is not directed against us in particular, but that he or she considers everyone around them as competitors. In this way, we will avoid feelings of resentment, anger or victimhood and it will be easier not to enter their dynamics.
This is because, on many occasions, competitive people try to use our fears and insecurities against us, making us doubt ourselves. It is important keep calm and not accept what they tell us, maintain self-confidence, remain calm and try not to get into personal confrontations that can be very unpleasant for us.
If we have to work or cooperate with that person, it is easier to reach an agreement raising our ideas involving him, with phrases like “I know a technique that can help us, facilitate us, etc.”. This way, he will feel safe and it will be easier to collaborate with him.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
