How do you know if you are doing the right thing? This is one of the questions most often heard by those who are dedicated to the field of emotional support. However, this trick question has no answer because in the human realm, actions are not a test that is scored from zero to ten.
When you have made a decision, think that you have done things the best that you have known from your maturity at the moment and your current situation. You may not understand how you could have made a certain choice ten years ago. But you are not the same person today as you were then, you are wiser and your situation has changed. Evaluate your decision from your capacity at that time.
You decide what is right because the important thing is that you stay calm with yourself when doing what allows you to feel good. Be honest with yourself implies having the ability to oppose the closest environment in achieving a goal. It is your life and you have the right to make your own mistakes. It is much healthier to make a mistake knowing that you were the owner of your decision than to act by external coercion and lead a life that you do not want.
Life is not an instruction manual that you can consult at every step to know if a decision is correct or not. Errors are life too and source of wisdom, therefore, it is convenient to stop stigmatizing failures as negative experiences. If you look at the past, you will surely realize that there are experiences that, although they were not gratifying, would not change with the perspective of time, because thanks to them, you are like this today.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
