The feeling that one or more people are constantly looking at us can be extremely uncomfortable for most and even threatening. If you feel that this happens to you very often and you constantly ask yourself "Why do I feel like everyone is looking at me?", surely, it is because that feeling of feeling observed by people generates more discomfort than pleasure. There are many reasons why we can feel that everyone is looking at us and the vast majority are of psychological origin and subjective, that is, it has more to do with ourselves and with what we perceive than with others and with what happens in reality. In this Psychology-Online article, we are going to help you find the possible causes for which this may be happening, as well as we will also provide you with a series of tips so that you can deal with this situation in case it is generating a lot discomfort.
If you feel that people are looking at you on the street and this situation is causing you a lot of discomfort in your life, first of all you should ask yourself these 3 questions:
- Is everyone really looking at you? People tend to generalize situations a lot, and it is that generalization can even be harmful if we usually do it constantly. One thing that will be of great help to you is to ask yourself if the whole world is really looking at you. And it is practically impossible for EVERYONE to be on the lookout for someone else. All or almost all of us are more aware of ourselves than of others.
- In what specific situations do you feel they are looking at you? We must learn to identify the specific situations in which we feel observed. For example, you may feel like everyone is looking at you at work while doing a certain activity, at school, on the street, etc.
- How do you feel when you are being watched? Surely, feeling constantly watched makes you feel quite uncomfortable, however, there are people to whom the opposite happens, since they love to always be the center of attention.
As we have already seen at the beginning of this article, there are several reasons why people can feel observed by people. Among the main ones are the following:
- Extreme shyness or social phobia: the people with extreme shyness or those who suffer from social phobia tend to think that other people are watching them all the time and that they are waiting for the moment when they make a mistake so that they can ridicule them. Nothing could be further from reality, however, when suffering from this type of disorder, the person really believes that he is being observed.
- Focus a lot on yourself: There are people who focus too much on themselves and think that everyone is watching them whatever they do when in reality they are not.
- Be a very attractive person: people who are very attractive attract attention in many places they go, so more than a couple of people will turn to see you, however, this does not mean that absolutely all people turn to see it and it will only be for certain periods of time. weather.
- Paranoid disorder or traits: Another possible reason why a person may think that everyone is looking at her is that she suffers from paranoid personality disorder or that he does not have the disorder as such, but he does have some traits such as feeling observed by people all the time.
Feeling watched all the time for the vast majority of people is a problem rather than a pleasure. Therefore, we will focus on giving you a series of tips that could be useful if you feel observed and this situation is causing you great discomfort. Some of these advice are as follows:
- Identify at what times of the day and in what situations you feel like the whole world is looking at you. Once you have identified them, you need to analyze why you think you are being watched, remembering that it is practically impossible for EVERYONE to look at you.
- It's necessary that stop focusing solely on yourself same. People who focus too much on themselves either cause others to withdraw from them or not generate so much empathy with people, which does not allow them to establish deeper relationships and durable.
- Every time you feel observed by others, remember that just like you they are also worrying about what they do and that their priority is themselves.
- See a professional in case this problem is so intense that it does not allow you to function adequately in each one areas of your life or that you have identified as being a social phobia or disorder paranoid. The professional will help you clarify the deepest reasons why you have this feeling of being observed all the time. time, it will help you so that this situation stops being so annoying for you and you can carry out your normal life without that type of worries. It will also help you eliminate your mental illness in case you present it.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
