Sometimes we can be in fight the world. And it is in such situations that instead of pointing fingers at others as responsible for all our frustrations, we should change our optics to look at ourselves and objectively analyze the reality of our emotional state. In this type of situation, the psychological thesis that affirms: "When you are well, your world is in order", "When you are not well with yourself, everything is chaos" gains strength.
But what happens when a person has to solve a troubleemotionalinternalAnd yet you blame others for your discomfort? That by identifying the wrong cause, it does not provide the appropriate remedy. But also, when we enter that chain of personal dissatisfaction in which no one or very few people seem to overcome that filter of expectations and perfection, so there is something that we must change.
And mainly, it is the attitude. That attitude that leads a person to constantly fixate on the shortcomings of others, as if she herself were perfect. This type of attitude is usually accompanied by the crushing of those other people's defects and an excessive understanding of oneself.
How to know if the problem is in you? When in these circumstances of personal dissatisfaction, you are not aware of the damage that your words do to other people and you confuse sincerity with the freedom to say anything, without a prior filter of empathy. The problem is in us when we believe that we are in possession of the truth and "our reasons" are a permanent justification to say what we want at all times. With the lack of humility typical of those states of pride and vanity that will frame many emotional states of resentment.
The problem is in us, when we mainly hold others responsible for our state of mind. When we give a lot of weight to circumstances and very little to freedom. Obviously, there are really difficult situations in which these types of ingredients can be altered. However, in most cases, the freedom of a responsible adult is greater in influence than external circumstances. However, the reality is that sometimes we find it very comfortable judging others.
Problems don't solve themselves by looking elsewhere. And in addition, this type of attitude can produce a rebound effect. Damage to the relationspersonal because not all people will still be there despite everything. That is, there will be those who get tired of feeling judged. The problem is in you when you think you have many rights but few obligations. Instead, you treat others as if they have many obligations to you but few rights. The problem is with us when we have stopped being equanimous.
Taking problem awareness, acknowledging their own mistakes. And assuming that, every human being has his own wounds. And despite everything, it is possible to wake up to life with the hope of gratitude. We have all been or will go through a situation of this type. The important thing is that, with all the naturalness in the world, we can change our attitude.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
