All of us have experienced guilt at some point in our lives. This feeling, despite being quite uncomfortable and annoying, also usually brings with it extremely positive aspects if it is transformed into responsibility. If there were no responsibilities, there would be tremendous chaos in society since most of us would probably be involved in acts potentially harmful to others and even to ourselves, relationships between people would become increasingly complicated, among others things. That is why, if we know how to use guilt in a positive way, this can help us to be better and better, to continue growing as people and to improve our interpersonal relationships.
However, in this article we are going to focus on that feeling of guilt that prevents us from living calmly and that even makes us feel guilty for everything that happens to us even without really being it. So if you are a person who does not stop feeling guilty about everything and would like to change this situation, in this Psychology-Online article:
Stop criticizing yourself
Sometimes people are overly critical of ourselves, even ruthlessly, leading to that the guilt that we may feel at some point we experience it twice and exaggerating what we really it is. We must learn to be more compassionate with ourselves and if we are not going to criticize it in a constructive and non-destructive way. It is important to give ourselves a break and increase our self esteem.
We all make mistakes
When we feel guilty we can come to feel that we are the only people in the world who have made a mistake and as if that is the worst thing that can happen to us. As you know, the reality is that each and every one of us makes mistakes and we will continue to do so, it is something we have to accept. Mistakes, if we take them as we should, help us to continue to develop as people and drive us to be better and better.
There are situations that we cannot avoid
Another thing we must accept is that we cannot be in control of everything. In fact, we lack control of most of the situations that occur in life. An example that is very common in this type of case is that some people tend to blame ourselves for things like the death of a being dear, where we feel that we could have done something because it did not happen, however it is not like that and we have to learn to forgive us.
Offer to help
In case you've made a mistake and voluntarily or unintentionally hurt someone else, you may not be able to remedy it. However, there are many other things you can do to improve it, for example, change your attitude with that person, help her in whatever way you can, in a few words show her your sincere repentance through your Actions.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
