For some people it is very easy to respect the freedom and will of others, letting them act according to their criteria. For others, men and women, it is almost impossible, and they pretend to control everything that happens to their around, including what they do or what happens to their partner, their children, their friends, co-workers work, etc. This attempt to control everything Not only does it pose a great level of stress for both those who control and those who are controlled, but it can seriously damage the personal relationships of who is controlling, since they end up removing everyone from their side, due to the suffering that their behavior provokes.
To avoid this, the first thing to keep in mind is that trying to control everything and everyone is an illusion.
Many times this attempt at control, especially in the couple, comes from the fear of not being loved or of being abandoned. We must bear in mind that one of the bases to eliminate this fear, whether in the couple or in another area, is trust and communication,
In the case of children, parents are often controlling to prevent them from being in danger or because they feel insecure about their affection, and in this way they try not to lose them. Trust children And giving them our trust is one of the first steps to avoid this desire for control as well.
Faced with the fear that something will happen to them, if it is very intense, it is advisable to follow a therapy to learn to control said anguish. If it is not, every time the fear of something happening appears, we should try to relax, breathing deeply and stopping the torrent of thoughts that give rise to anxiety.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
