By Marco Antonio Mendoza Hernandez. February 23, 2018
Human nature instinctively tends to pleasure. This begins with the experimentation of sensations to later become perceptions, then in thoughts, from these arise the emotions and these lead to the evident behaviors- observable. So, the genesis of love is in the contemplation of physical beautyIn fact, the first factor that influences the formation of love is physical attraction. In this PsychologyOnline article, we answer in detail the question of: Does beauty matter in love?
The perception of physical beauty is subjective, that is, it depends on the psychology of the individual. A certain person may be perceived as very attractive for one subject, but for another, it may not be. This relativism of physical beauty is what facilitates on the one hand the construction of love, but on the other hand, it makes it sustainable over time or fades it until it ends.
On the other hand, we have to talk about what we can call "The self-perception of our physical body."
The answer is by controlling the variables above. Therefore, the following can be applied behavioral exercises:
First of all, carefully observe your body, stop at the parts that attract you, caress your body, experience your own sensations, practice this exercise, without thinking about your qualities and defects only enjoy your real body, the result is that automatically, the proper perception appears, your self-attraction is formed as a gestalt, that is, as a whole.
Once the previous self-perception was obtained, by controlling the sensitive and perceptual variables, we began to work on the cognitive and emotional variable. The cognitive variable refers to the formation of ideas, beliefs, with simple exercises such as: self-invitation to the ideal restaurant, comply with the protocol such as bathing and wearing the dress that you like the most, wearing the best perfume, etc. All thinking about his own self-satisfaction. Go for a walk to your favorite place, have a positive and friendly attitude towards other people, not because of public appreciation but thinking about your own evaluation, show yourself that you are the best in his profession or trade, plan a daily schedule of activities that lead to his own personal growth, collect his photos according to his personal evolution, write yourself a letter highlighting your physical and personal qualities and in general conceive all the thoughts that lead you to the experimentation of emotions centered on the real self-acceptance.
The previous exercises can be complemented with others of the same nature, these allow for their concomitant effect the strengthening of the emotional and behavioral variable, because they project and reflect feelings and beauty, generating the first factor of the love, namely, physical attraction.
In conclusion, let's say love begins with physical attraction and the contemplation of beauty. Later, by learning, the feeling of love is produced, as a mental construction resulting from thoughts and emotions. So we must first produce the mental construction of the love ourselves to project it to others and in feedback generate physical attraction, to later be truly loved.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
